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Grieving

I talked to someone closes to me at certain moment, about my scar and grief for 27 years of loss and a mother's death that I’m depressed and suicidal, but he made me feel small around him.

And his responses… “it’s past,” “move on,” “ignorant,” “not my monkey not my circus,” “I hate those kind of people”, “waste your life.” That’s not gentle

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User Profile: mytwistedsoul
mytwistedsoul June 10th

@friendlyMango934 I'm sorry these were the things he said to you. He was harsh and dismissive. Losing someone isn't something you can just get over or move on from. Losing a parent changes you. She missed so much of your life. I'm sorry you're hurting so much. 

Talking to him about these things probably took a lot of courage for you to do. He should have given you a gentle response. Please try not to let his words pull you down farther. Is there a hotline or a warmline that you can talk to about being suicidal? I ask this only because Cups isn't equipped to deal with that and I'd like you to hear a warm caring voice 💜

User Profile: friendlyMango934
friendlyMango934 OP June 10th

Thank you for your kind words, yes I forgive him for that. I'm all good it was just before when I was a kid I used to pray to God that I'm the one hurting or in pain and should be the one who got sick, instead of my mom seeing her in pain, is more hurtful than every night I cry myself to sleep. At young age she prepared me that one day I woke up she might not be there anymore. But it's all good now but missing her is another story.

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User Profile: mytwistedsoul
mytwistedsoul June 11th

@friendlyMango934 I'm glad to hear things are good now. The missing them is another story. I don't know if we ever really stop missing them or wishing they were still here. Because it seems like not a day goes by without them showing up in our thoughts 💜


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User Profile: wittyFarm2325
wittyFarm2325 June 14th

@friendlyMango934 sorry to hear that. I think there could of been a lot more ways to handle things