How do i stop SH???
How do i stop sh?
For context: im 16 right now and i was clean for the last 2 years. I relapsed this year in june and since that I couldn't really properly stop. I was max. clean for 17 days so far. Just relapsed today. There was also a incident where I passed out bc of the cuts and blood loss. (Almost went into Shock)
In this time i tried every method, every coping thingy I could find but it never helped. Now, I should seriously stop because everytime I sh, I go deeper. I remember beeing scared of seeing the cuts bleed right away and now I just go as deep as I can - almost like Im on autopilot -.
I dont want things to get worse and escalate like it did a few months ago; so....any advice??
I know its extremely hard, but something that helps is be around other people. Don't let yourself search for the object. Even when you really want to don't give in. One day at a time. Tell yourself tomorrow. and the next day say it again. And when you really feel like you want to call someone. Talk to someone. Go to sleep even if you cant, tell yourself not now. I hope this helpsđStay safe
Hey. Thanks for this advice. I will try to do that. Hope it will work.
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Hey. Thanks for this advice. I will try to do that. Hope it will work.
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@MinaChoo Hey, how's it going?đ
Hey... it was going good but i had a incident a day later. Rn im still recovering. Thx for asking <3
@MinaChoo  hey, how r u?
Hey. I recovered from my incident. Im doing better with my health now. But my cutting got worse. I cant seem to be able to stop or reopen my old cuts... i feel like im weirdly obsessed seeing the scars by now. This weird thing developed over the last week and now i cant stop reopening my cuts so they scar properly. I feel bad if they fade.
Sounds weird af.. i know.
@MinaChoo no you don't it makes sense. letting let fade can be really hard, ik cuz i do the same thing. i think letting them heal is the hardest part. but we just gotta let it go, so we can get better. I know things are hard right now but your really strong. i hope u feel better đ«đ
I will try to do so. Yesterday i didnt cut ot reopen them. But i woke up ***. I must have scratched myself open in sleep...
Im trying but i cant
@MinaChoo Just take it one day at a time. do things to keep yourself busy. just keep trying, i know its hard but u got this!
Sounds like youre going through a lot, but I'm really proud of you, staying clean for 2 years is a lot, the fact that you could do that says that you're mentally strong. As someone who has had a past with SH, I suggest trying to hide away the tools that usually are used to do the self harm. One other thing that really helped me was pin pointing the exact triggers. Hope you feel better soon, I know you've probably heard this a lot but really, you're not alone
Hey. Thanks fpr your advice. It sounds smart to find the exact triggers yet im still struggling to do so...
Thx though
@MinaChoo I'm so so sorry you're struggling right now. And I completely understand. I've been there. I'm now 74 days clean, and that's the most I've ever gone. For me, I had to really really want to stop. I gathered the determination to stop doing it. It also helped that my mom took away the things I used, so that if I did hurt myself it wouldn't be severe enough to cause immense danger.
Hey first of all congrats beeing 74 days clean.. yayy
And thanks for your reply. The issue is the first times i cut my mom saw it and as yours did, she took the stuff away i used. But i always find other things. No matter where i get it. Thats the problem. But ill try to get away from those objects. And thanks again for your reply :)
@MinaChoo Yeah unfortunately I also got other things recently. I told myself "just in case" but really it isn't a good idea. You got this!
Yeah. Thats exactly the thing. The 'just if ill need it'. But ill try to do what you said. Thankss
Iâm really sorry youâre going through this. Relapsing doesnât erase how strong you were for two years. What you described sounds really dangerous, and you deserve help with this, not more harm. Please consider reaching out to a trusted adult or mental health professional. You matter, and you donât have to fight this alone.
Hey. First of all thx for your message!!
The last months since october or end of september got so bad.. rn im not doing any better but i cant reach out for someone. I know it will only get worse if i do so. My parrents will be mad. My dad will come with arguments like 'you cut because youre bored and have nothing on your mind' .. or 'thats a phase'. Im struggling since 2 years and now back to same sh1t. Its not a phase. Thats why im afraid of reaching out. I just cant take how they will react...
Ive was clean for 18 days at some point and I had consistent urges like every single day i literally yesterday and today morning I did pretty deep like idk Im not even scared anymore i just go deep itâs really affected me in the worst ways possible and the concerning part is i literally cant stop even with distractions the urge/feeling still stay in my head
Ive was clean for 18 days at some point and I had consistent urges like every single day i literally yesterday and today morning I did pretty deep like idk Im not even scared anymore i just go deep itâs really affected me in the worst ways possible and the concerning part is i literally cant stop even with distractions the urge/feeling still stay in my head
Idk why it double posted
Yeah thats exactly how i feel. I just do it not thinking how deep. But hearing u stay clea for 18 days is sth amazing hope you get better too <3
@MinaChoo
Yes, there are things you could do to stop being self harm.
1. Understand yourself, why you are self-harming yourself.
2. Acknowledging that you need to heal to feel better then use another pain you did with self-harm to be used as some kind of pain killer towards your emotional or mentally pain.
3. Look for a good community,
we are human are social animal, it is not good to be alone, you need a supportive community to help you out with your self-harm.
4. Remember that are ways to feel pleasure other then doing self-harm.
which is more usefull and beneficial towards your body and mental health.
Hey... thanks for your advice. I will definitely do that. I also started to be active in the comunities and groups too it might help.
:)
Hey! @MinaChoo
I hear you and I totally understand how hard it can be. I know that once you get to a certain point, you know itâs not right but it doesnât really feel wrong, which makes it feel even more difficult to stop. I also know that it is totally possible if you give you surround yourself with the right people and find the motivation you need. Here are things that may be beneficial:
1. Talk to someone! Whether it be a friend, coworker, teacher, or listener! I know itâs super difficult but just having one trusted person to hold you accountable feels like a step in the right direction and gives you motivation to stop. You donât have to tell or show them anything, just tell them what youâre going through. It may not sound like it, but people are actually often super supportive and non-judgmental.
2. Find other ways to cope. Iâve found that horror movies and âscaryâ videos work super well (if thatâs your thing). You could also even try doomscrolling or playing your favorite game as a distraction.
3. Take care of yourself! If youâre ever feeling stressed, know that itâs okay to take a step back. Lay in bed for a little while. Watch a movie.
I hope you start to move in the right direction and just know, there are so many people here at 7 cups that support you and understand you! Good luck â€ïž
Heyy! Thanks for your text and help. I cant really talk to sb but i havea listener here. He was there for me since a longer time. I tell him always but i never told sb from my social life like friends or teachers... im always scared my parrents will find out.
Ans about the scary movie/video thing... i think that might be a good idea! Thxxx
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Hi Im clean since 2 months now and I know how bad it can be I Tryed everything too stop it first apps but they werenât going long then I put my blades away and knifes but then I switched to a lighterâŠ.its mostly hard when I argument with my momâŠmost people do it because they want too feel the pain and..I donât know how too describe it I do it because IâŠthinck I deserve that painâŠ.i hope it gets better with your sh maybe you want too text sometimes I just want too say Iâm always here for you
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Hi Im clean since 2 months now and I know how bad it can be I Tryed everything too stop it first apps but they werenât going long then I put my blades away and knifes but then I switched to a lighterâŠ.its mostly hard when I argument with my momâŠmost people do it because they want too feel the pain and..I donât know how too describe it I do it because IâŠthinck I deserve that painâŠ.i hope it gets better with your sh maybe you want too text sometimes I just want too say Iâm always here for you
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Heyy. Comgrats beeimg clean for 2 months mannn! Lets gooo.
And thx for your text. Glad to hear sb knows what i feel. The btw im clean now for w days... im holding up a bit better thanks to all the ppl advices here. Id love to give you updates sometimes :)