Self-Harm Recovery- Results and Goals for December 2019!
Hey everyone! I was quite busy yesterday so I didn't get a chance to post the update to November's post! So I'm doing it all in one post.
How did November's goals go for you? What are your goals- same or new- for December?
I know some of mine are really taking the time to be present and mindful in the midst of all the celebrations :)
Take care everyone in this festive season if you celebrate it!
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First off I just want to thank you for posting these threads, they really mean a lot and I'm grateful for all of the people who help out around this community.
I think this month I need to remember to be mindful and stay in the moment when I'm with the people I care about. I want to be able to forgive myself, even though I feel like everything is my fault I need to remember people make mistakes myself included.
@fairmindedRaspberries1389
Aww thank you, you're too kind :) I love your goals, especially the second one. It's a tough one to overcome, but yes, reminders to self are a very important first step. Good luck on your journey towards discovering why you think the way you think, and changing your mindset. We're all here for you and cheering you on! ❤️
@rebecca947 hi. I'm ok. My mom had some work-friends over for dinner and drinks, and they got drunk. I don't like drunk ppl so I stayed in my room all day, making myself more and more anxious. So I ended up cutting. The sounds of them made me nervous. I didn't wanna be there, but I didn't really have a choice. It was dark outside, and I couldn't go to my grandma's as I normally do. So I cut. I'm not proud of it, but I did it. It was the only thing that could calm me down.
How did November's goals go for you? What are your goals- same or new- for December?
Uhm, I don't really know yet. I mean... I wanna finish my novel, and that's my main goal. I hope I can do it this month, before the year ends, but as it's soon christmas stuff can always come up and stop me in doing what I want. Another goal is to not cut more this year. I don't know if I can do it, but I sure hope it can. I always feel like cutting new years day (the 31th December), bc of the fireworks. That makes me anxious too, but if I can just... cut after midnight or something, at least I have accompliced my goal. Another goal could be to do my bikerides. Once a day every other day, and twice a day the other days. I guess I can do that, and hopefully loose more weight.
@EvilRegalsReadToo
Hey, big hugs for you if you want them ❤️ I'm sorry you had to go through that. It's good to know your triggers. Are there ways to help you feel calm when they're there, or talk to your parents about it? Maybe blasting music through earphones or staying the night at someone's place? As for the fireworks, maybe do something similar? Not sure if it could work for you, just some suggestions.
Good luck with your novel, and bike riding! Staying healthy ❤️
@rebecca947 hi, and thank you for the hug 
I blasted music out through headphones, but it didn't help, I could hear them anyway 
I was trying to ask my grandma, if I could go to her places, but she was having friends over, so I couldn't go there, and I didn't have anywhere to go. But at new year I can be at my grandma's, and as I'm not bringing my blades (I don't wanna start cutting at her place) I can't cut there, and I have to find another way to cope. That's kind of what I can do about that.
But I will bring my cat to her place, maybe that helps.
I didn't have any goals for November but for December I would love to stay clean the whole month! I'm currently 22 days clean!
@Ryan456456
Oh wow, good work, Ryan! :) what has helped you stay clean, and what do you think you could do to keep it that way for this month? :)