I need relationship help
So my recent ex boyfriend had broke up with me bc I am a user , selfish,have attitude problems,and I also treated him like a rebound
What should I do to prove to him that I'm the girl that he needs
@adaptableMoon5908
Hello, and welcome to 7 Cups!
Maybe I am a little bit wrong, but from my experience relationships are neither built, nor dying of negligence in a single day. Both are long-lasting processes.
Do you think your partner's objections might be to some extent right?
Even if the answer is "yes" I think the moment when someone needs to "prove" anything to someone else is the moment the relationship is on the thin and slippery ice. I think the words "I'll show you" sound more positive (and less defensive) than "I'll prove it to you"...
Maybe changing some behaviours could be a better option? It takes time, but most people I know believe in small actions more than in general declarations. Do you think your time together is not yet over?
There are various kinds of people, some of them taking their breakup decisions too quick and possibly with not enough reflection, and some stay as long as possible - but when they decide, there are no returns. Which type your partner might be?
Sometimes the end of something can be a new beginning. But is it still with the same person? I guess we have got a limited control over that...
@adaptableMoon5908If your the girl he needs, everyone needs someone but not everyone needs someone, you shouldn't hold on to someone who's already let go of you, he needs someone who won't hurt him, and treat him horrible, not saying u do but you should get therapy so this way you could improve and become a better person, for him if you truly love him, don't worry I believe you, I was here once, so just pray for strength and an open heart and mind to see whatever it is that you don't currently to better yourself, and pray that they could forgive you and show them your sorry because actions are way louder than just words.
