Need advice/reassurance
Im in a long-distance relationship for 3 years. We have a good relationship but rn everything is falling apart and i blame myself. We just had a one month break because she felt stress about everything. She feels pressure to answer my texts. I feel like i forced her to talk to me. Maybe im too controlling, idk. After the break everything feel really good when she want me back. We talked and everything was good. Until i did everything wrong. I want us to talk again like we used to do, But she wants to take it slow. it makes me feel unwanted. She takes hours to answer my text while still uploading story on ins and online. I feel ignored. So i sent her long messages and i regret. I told her how I feel and what i want. I also become jealous with her new male best friend, he gets to hang out with her but i dont. I dont feel special to her anymore, I feel like im even below her friends. I was overthinking everything. Things i dont even know if it is true. I want to be better, I want to not overthinking and better control my feelings. I dont want my gf to feel pressure when she talks to me.
communication is key in every relationship...
I like it when things are plain and straightforward so in my opinion I would suggest asking her, sit down, talk it out and know where you stand...
@crimsonBalloon1992 We talked. We talked about how me and her want 2 different starts. I get where she comes from, she wants to feel more relax in this relationship, like when we get to know each other. Since it's long distance, I always want to feel more close to her, I want to know what she is doing at the moment, so texting and calling is a way to get a sense of closeness. She used to tell me where she will go and what she is doing but not when we talked again. I always found out by checking her story on social media. So that also make me feel bad, feel left out of her life. And i feel like Im dragging her down by sending paragraph of messages, and always so unhappy with how she responded. Now she said she is not sure about being with me anymore, but she is willingly to give me a last chance to get better. I feel like im pushing her away by create this controlling idea of a relationship. I think I make her feel suffocate in this relationship.
@dauphuran So sorry for replying this late... forgive me
Relationships are two different people trying to make it work, it's not easy like it's actual work but if the love is there (mutual love) it's lot easier.
I don't think you're suffocating her, you love her and you want to spend every second with her, that's normal, we express ourselves differently but if she says she needs space idk...
How are you guys now? is everything good?