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Step 12: More Ways to Reward Your Change

Creator: @SoulfullyAButterfly

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  • Give reassuring compliments to remind yourself that you’re becoming successful at changing, which counters the years - maybe decades - of defeatist messages. The intent is to internalize and own a positive self-image, not only to reinforce the behavior. 
  • Remove a dreaded chore, such as cleaning the bathroom or decluttering a closet, when you’re successful in the small steps you’re taking toward permanent change. Sometimes we only think of giving ourselves a pleasurable consequence, but remember that removing an aversive chore constitutes a powerful reward indeed. 

One of the most effective rewards in my life has been not to clean our home; I’ll engage in all sorts of target behaviors to have someone else do that. 

In the box below, write a compliment to yourself for becoming better and successful at changing.