Is it still worth trying if he/she broke up with me several times?
Last Updated: 10/10/2021 at 5:43am
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Letting go of someone you care for is one of the most difficult things you will ever do. It is easy for someone outside of a relationship to offer advice, but when you have feelings for an individual, letting go can seem impossible. It does not depend on age or experience, you are striving for what seems to be a great relationship and the other person is fighting you. When the other person has broken up with you several times, you do need to see what the attraction is. Multiple break ups do indicate an incompatibility despite how you feel. Seek friends that support you but are not enemies of the partner. You do not want to form a hate club but a support group for you doing without the partner.
The main thing you should focus on and think about is...Are you happy? Are you ready to go through it again? Are you aware that there is someone so much worth it and ready to love you instead. Someone who won't make you have to go through this more than once. Someone that will make you smile and make you feel like you matter. Not someone who keeps coming back to you because they feel lonely when you know they could easily leave just like they easily come back. You matter and your happiness is the most important thing on this earth.
To be honest, I don't think so. I had been with my ex for 7 long years and we broke up more times then we were together. And each time we broke up & got back together, it was one more thing on my list of long ass thing to hate him for. I mean i loved him to death never wanted anyone but him, but i think if you break up more than 2 or 3 times, that's a good 2 or 3 time answer that something isn't working, and it maybe time to let that boat sail.
Yes. If it's true love. Do not ever give up. All relationships have there ups an downs. It's natural
My personal experience with relationships similar to this is that if they have not shown the commitment to stick by you regardless of what life throws at you then they are not the right person for you. A person who truly cares for you will be there for you, and stay with you, regardless of what life may throw at you.
I believe in second chances. Do I believe in several chances? No. You deserve to be with someone who won't cut you off and only want you back at his or her convenience. If it didn't work out during the second chance, this pattern of breaking up is only going to keep happening. You deserve respect, and you deserve someone mature enough to want to commit to your relationship. Stay strong.
I broke up with someone quite a few times. He was patient with me. After I sorted through my issues, and after I saw how he truly loved me (I had not expected him to stick around with me for so long), I decided to stick with him; so I've stuck with him for over half a year now. I can't tell the future but I think I'll be with him forever. Sometimes it depends on why those break-ups happened I think.
No, you shouldn't let yourself become a toy for someone. Relationships shouldn't be something that you can pick up and just drop whenever. Both parties need to invest time in each other and make the effort!
You know the answer already. Your asking because its hard to make that decision. No one can make it for you and even if they did, they wouldn't know the right answer. Think about it.
In my honest opinion, I don't think its still worth trying because if he or she loved you they wouldn't be doubting your relationship and continuously hurting you. My best friend is going through this same issue right now and it kills me to see her hurting and I don't want you having to deal with the same thing . Break ups are hard but trust me you'd much rather have somebody who genuinely loves you and have to wait for them than to be in a toxic relationship.. Thats gonna only keep hurting you.
The question is, "Is it even worth trying?" He/she broke up with you several times yes, but do you think it will work out this time? What makes you think so?
every breakup is different, and every couple is different. If there's a pattern of one person leaving the other and coming back, it could mean a number of things. It could show a severe lack of respect, but it could also show that the partner who keeps leaving and coming back doesn't know how to communicate what's wrong, and they run rather than deal with the issue. This one's complicated.
Sweetheart let me tell you something. If he/she broke up with you once I would leave them. I mean, they aren't worth it. You're a beautiful person and you deserve better
My thoughts are : No. They're not worth it. There's a reason that they keep breaking up with you. The idea of comfort with someone is easy to fall into and trying to get out of that idea can be difficult. But, it is self-harm to continue to go back and get hurt all over again. They are obviously not worth your time and I believe you would be better served in going to find someone who will appreciate you and not break up with you over and over.
well, is it worth getting your heart broken all the time? getting your hopes up for nothing? while there are more girls/boys out there?
Only you can determine if it's worth trying, but I feel that it is still worth trying even is he/she broke up with you several times depending on why they kept breaking up with you and how long the relationship lasted each time. If it's a pattern and it happens every single time yall get back together then moving on maybe within your best interest. Breaks are ok, but constantly ending a relationship can be very hectic, depressing and cause havoc especially if you love this person.
No. You can not make someone love you. If they broke up with you several times, I know it's hard but you can't be with someone who doesn't love you back. You deserve better, you deserve someone who will ask you out several times, someone who adores everything about you, someone who looks at you like you're the only diamond in a world full of chalk. You deserve someone who loves EVERYTHING about you.
I’m struggling with this now. My ex and I were together for 6 years and he broke up with me 4 time. He always cane back looking for me, asking for forgiveness, expressing how I was the love of his life and true love. I always took him back because I loved him and was mostly miserable without him. But after the 4th time, I met someone who should me that it was possible to love again, and that there is better love out there. That relationship didn’t last, but it served a purpose in showing me that I deserve love. My ex has come back asking me to take him back, asking for forgiveness and professing the same loving things. However, this time, I’m hesitant to try again, for two simple reason. Although I truly care about him and love him 1. I don’t trust him that he won’t break up with me again, and honestly I don’t want to go through the pain again. Each breakup was messy and hurtful. 2. I don’t see a future with him. There was too much pain and hurt caused. My family disapproves (although they would eventually, I think, accept) and I don’t ever want a relationship with his sister. Too much pain and hurt to overcome to really lead a healthy and productive relationship. This is my experience, and of course yours may be different. Perhaps there wasn’t a lot of pain or hurt experienced in each breakup. Ultimately you know what’s best for you. I would recommend that you at least give yourself time to heal. Give yourself time to heal and process what has happened between you two and your relationship. And focus on yourself (loving yourself, forgiving yourself, and being kind to yourself). Then make a decision that you know you will be content and happy with - one in which you know you are honoring yourself and your heart. Good luck.
If there are unpleasant situations then there are happy movement too .. if the love is real you should try again ... Relationships are made out of two people refusing to give up .. what matters is whos worth it
Not really. Though everyone deserves a 2nd chance we also need stability by someone who cares enough
That really is a deeply personal decision. One question to ask would be if you are willing to give it another shot. It also depends on why there have been so many breakups. If happens every time there is a disagreement or when you don't behave in a manner that s/he likes, there is a real possibility the relationship in an unhealthy pattern.
No sorry but in my personal opinion I think if you keep breaking up again and again, theres a reason behind that, its n ot accidental
you have to remember this: if you broke up once, twice, three times - there's always a reason behind it. keep that in mind, maybe you just don't fit together. i can't judge if something is worth it or not because i don't know the whole situation, but it's important to keep in mind that if it's happened it was for a reason, and that getting back together may not always be a solution.
This one is tricky. There are off and on relationships that have worked out eventually and there are ones that don't. I think that the important part is to look at why you broke up. If it was something silly or not important, then maybe you should consider getting back together. If you do though, you must make a point of setting a condition: if they break up with you for a stupid reason again, it will be over and that will be final. This will encourage your partner to really really think before they make that mistake again. If it wasn't for a silly reason, then just focus on why you cannot be together. Most likely, that same conflict between you would cause you two to break up again.
If you still love him and think you can solve the issues, have a talk wit him and talk it out. In a relationship, commuication is very important
I say there seems to be a reocurring pattern which may be signalling that there is something deeper to work on. If you feel that can be done then it may be worth trying again, however it may be time for you both to sit down together and talk honestly together about what yiu bith want now and in thw future. The answers will help you decide where to go from there but on your thebexpert on your relationship and how to best approach this together. Good luck and stay strong. The outcome, although may not initially seem it, probably will be the best for you both.
Do what's best for you. Listen to your heart and mind not just one or the other. Because if you dedicate that time to your decision making, you will definitely come to some sort of conclusion.
It really depends on you. But one thing some people try in situations like this is they make a list of all the pros and cons of your relationship. If the pros outweigh the cons then it might be worth to keep trying, but if it's the other way around maybe it would be better to just let go and move forward.
No, its not helping anymore, just sit back and relax, if you two are the soulmate then it takes time
It is a hard decision to take.. I myself had to make it, but I guess it all comes down to how you feel about the person in the moment.althought, even if you love his/her company, maybe it is not worth it to keep hurting yourself.. If you have a thought in the back of your mind telling you something bad night happen again, be careful, but I like to believe those instinct thoughts are most of the times right. I hope I somehow helped
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