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what does it mean to be an outsider?

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Last Updated: 12/17/2018 at 3:12pm
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Anonymous
March 12th, 2015 7:16pm
In my experience, being an outsider is like being kind of invisible. You walk amongst people and you see people ,but you never feel that they see you. And when you do something to make them see you they just don't seem to understand. It's like you're speaking a weird language that no one has ever heard of. You keep talking, but no one seems to understand. You understand their language , but it just seems too hard for you. So you just stay alone , silently watching them talk together.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2015 2:08am
Being an outsider can do either or both of two things to a person (or a group in society). It can make you feel alone, lonely, isolated ... faceless, nameless, voiceless ... like you don't have a say in decisions that concern you. But it can also give you a unique perspective on the people around you or on your society as a whole. A friend of mine always says, "The onlooker sees most of the game." Being an outsider forces you to examine the assumptions and preconceptions of your society, and to come to your own conclusions about things.
ThePeachTree
March 5th, 2015 12:40am
An outsider means that you are not very social, and may have some friends but do not have a lot. But usually they are the most friendliest people you can ever meet. ^-^
Anonymous
June 8th, 2015 4:22am
that you feel that you do not belong because you are different from the rest, and that no one understands you.
positiveSummer89
July 6th, 2015 6:07pm
Outsider is someone who does not fit in or is the odd one out or the one that looks diffrent or maybe not the same
Rosealyn
November 10th, 2015 5:04pm
Typically, an outsider is defined as a person that does not fit the social mold- we're awesome people. We don't follow in the footsteps of others, but blaze our own path. If you're an outsider, wear it with pride. You'll realize that there are more people like you than you think!
Simplythings
November 30th, 2015 8:39pm
To be different. Which is not always a bad thing. Just because someone says you are an outsider does not mean you are one.
fighter1234
May 15th, 2015 5:20pm
It means that you have your own, unique way of thinking and it is different from the others. It doesn't need to be correct it needs to present you as a person, your way of thinking, your way of living your life.
SaturdaysChild
October 27th, 2015 10:58am
To be excluded from social circle. To have some characteristics that make you different, that make you stand out.
iifeatherii
October 9th, 2018 6:20pm
An outsider is a person who quite simply does not fit in with existence-as-we-know-it. An outsider walks through life with a feeling of inner isolation and disconnection. This isolation often gives birth to the longing and search for freedom, acceptance, and a true place to call “home.” Can you relate to this feeling? Have you begun this quest? I can relate. I was a very strange and misunderstood child. I never fit in with my classmates and feel I did not fit in with my co-workers as an adult. I have been thinking about this a lot lately. Although I make more of an effort to be friendly and approachable as an adult, I still am considered different. I have felt like an outsider all my life and probably feel this until the day I die. Although being an outsider can be terribly lonely, it is a privileged position. Leaving the herd of humanity allows you to flourish and blossom in ways you never could experience while being “normal” and socially “acceptable.”
Anonymous
August 21st, 2017 9:38am
Being an outsider means you don't get to do the things they do with them, but you get to do it by yourself. You get to build yourself, ponder your worth, and see that you're awesome. And since you're not "in", you're more open to valuable moments and people.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2016 12:29am
It means you are not part of something. You are just looking into a situation or event; yet you are not part of it.
h3idi
September 27th, 2016 3:44am
feeling as though you are unable to connect with the people in your life. its a lonely feeling but is fixable with added socialzation
Irisflower1998
April 9th, 2018 11:33am
Being a outsider means that your not following what everyone wants you to be, you are being unique and yourself.
LightontheBack
December 17th, 2018 3:12pm
Based on my personal experience and knowledge, I would describe an outsider as one or two phenomena: Phenomena #1: A person who perceives him- or herself as outside a certian group of people. This phenomena generally involves the individual's self-perception. The individual has characterized a group as an entity, while being outside it either by choice. Phenomena #2: This phenomena also draws from the definition of a group, mentioned in Phenomena #1. Here the person is outside of the group, because the group has either neglected to include the individual, or, the group has actively excluded the individual. Here, the group can, on the other hand, actively include the outsider. When the latter happens, the outsider goes from being perceived as an outsider to being perceived, by the group, as an insider. Transformation, going from being outsider to being an insider is in the last case an essential part of being an outsider. This concludes a definition of an outsider, firstly, to be someone who feels like an outsider. Another kind of outsider can, secondly, come from the group. The group points to an outsider, where the group acts like either a kind of bully or like a Good Samaritan.