Why can't I just be happy like everyone else?

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Last Updated: 07/06/2018 at 9:31pm
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Anonymous
March 31st, 2015 5:34pm
You know why it’s so hard to be happy? ‘Cause we refuse to let go of the things that make us sad. We do that everytime. Sometimes I think we like the pain. I mean we’re kinda wired that way and without it I don’t know maybe stuff won’t feel real. We’re never really happy with what we’ve got and we always realize what we had after it’s gone. That’s the sad part you know. That’s when we find it so hard to let go. And that makes us sad. Everybody wants to be happy, I know that, I kinda get that. But nobody is actually ready to do what it takes to be happy. It’s not that hard you know, you just need to try. Once, for real. You say they told you about it….but they never said it’s all gonna be easy, they just promised you that it’s gonna be worth it!
TheComedyTragedy
July 13th, 2015 8:42pm
People are so individual. It isn't true to simply state that everybody else is happy, because a lot of people are fighting invisible wars - just as you are now :)
heavenleighlove
July 27th, 2015 7:11am
Sometimes, we need to accept ourselves before were happy. Other people might seem happy, but they are facing their own battles as well.
Anonymous
March 25th, 2015 6:58am
It's hard to feel happy when you're comparing yourself to others. Our own happiness might not seem so significant if we aren't viewing it for what it is. It is important to focus on yourself in order to determine your happiness. If you truly believe you are unhappy, reflect on why that is. Try to remove the negative things from your life.
DaniM
April 2nd, 2015 4:14pm
The reason for you not to feel happy is something only you can tell yourself. Though I can't tell your why you can't be happy, because it is something that is only you can answer. Start letting it go, start doing things to make yourself happy, and not worried about what the person next to you thinks. Being happy is something quite difficult, but not impossible. Depending on the reason for your happiness, it can be as simple as in acceptance. Most of us do stuff to give happiness to others only, and not yourself. You are always in the first place. Make yourself a priority
Mutelock
August 31st, 2015 12:01pm
There simply isn't an answer to this. Maybe 'why' isn't the right question to ask. Maybe 'how' is a better question. How can you be happy like everyone else? Don't look at the people around you in envy, but turn to them for inspiration. What do they do to be happy? How do they deal with their struggles? Maybe you can learn from some of them and their tricks (life hacks!) or perhaps you can simply see it as something to strive for. A lasting reminder that happiness exists and that it's out there. It's what you're fighting for!
Weed
March 2nd, 2015 7:00pm
Because you are focusing on everyone else too much maybe? or maybe everyone else is faking it? or maybe you haven't find the thing to be happy about yet? or maybe you are just confused? you can also be alone?
Anonymous
March 7th, 2015 7:58pm
Happiness is different things to different people. We can not compare oursleves to other people because we don't know how they live their lives and what they are thinking.
Greatlistener87
November 9th, 2015 2:02am
Different people find happiness in different places, you just need to find where and what makes you happy.
blanket7
February 2nd, 2016 7:35pm
Not everyone is happy, we all have our issues. Don't be too negative though, you can also find happiness.
Anonymous
February 8th, 2016 6:29am
I can be happy like everyone else if they treat me with respect the courage that I'll succeed and tell funny weird jokes.
Anonymous
March 8th, 2016 8:54pm
The sad truth is not everyone is happy. Most appear to be happy on the outside and seem to have perfect happy lives where nothing is wrong but thats just not the way it is. You are totally normal if you feel sad and it will get better and you will be happy. Life gets better.
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2016 6:35pm
Everyone you see out there isnt always happy. Some people may be strong enough to hide their pain in a beautiful smile! Every person has their own challenges to face just like you. Happiness is a choice. So Choose Wisely. And Smile. :)
Johnviser
June 27th, 2016 12:07pm
Be a like a dog. A dog doesn't worry too much. You need lower those worries so you'll receive more happy energy everyday.
thoughtfulTree67
August 1st, 2016 6:20am
I've been asking myself that for a long time now. You have to realize their is something (possibly several things) that are holding you back from being the happiest you can be. It's okay to ask for help to try and figure what the issues are or how to put them behind you. You must also realize their are other people who feel this way and no one is happy all the time.
kvo8
August 29th, 2017 12:42am
Sometimes we view others and think that their life is perfect and that they must be so happy. However, sometimes we also forget that everybody is facing issues or battles that others are not aware of. Some people could be suffering from depression behind closed doors, but in a room of people you might think they are the happiest person there. Someone who seems to get everything they want, might be working 3 jobs to get those things. Although you might be feeling down and like everyone around you is happy, you are not alone. So many people out there are going through similar things and feeling similar things as you, but you are strong and will get through it.
Anonymous
November 25th, 2017 4:45am
Because you are looking for your happiness in all the wrong places. I do it too... only you can make yourself happy.
Anonymous
December 19th, 2017 6:47pm
it may appear that everyone is happy but many people are good at hiding their true feelings. try to do things that make you happy for yourself
thereforyou12
July 3rd, 2018 6:36pm
you can be just try not to be introvert if you are and express yourself and then you’ll see happiness in everything😊
Anonymous
July 6th, 2018 9:31pm
Believe me there was a point in my life that i thought that everybody have a perfect life and that they are complete but the truth is no one is complete,no one is perfect but you can do your best to make your future much brighter than your past