Why can't I just be happy like everyone else?
Last Updated: 09/08/2020 at 8:58pm
Stacey Kiger, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
My belief is that therapy is not about giving advice, but joining you on your journey
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You know why it’s so hard to be happy? ‘Cause we refuse to let go of the things that make us sad. We do that everytime. Sometimes I think we like the pain. I mean we’re kinda wired that way and without it I don’t know maybe stuff won’t feel real. We’re never really happy with what we’ve got and we always realize what we had after it’s gone. That’s the sad part you know. That’s when we find it so hard to let go. And that makes us sad. Everybody wants to be happy, I know that, I kinda get that. But nobody is actually ready to do what it takes to be happy. It’s not that hard you know, you just need to try. Once, for real. You say they told you about it….but they never said it’s all gonna be easy, they just promised you that it’s gonna be worth it!
People are so individual. It isn't true to simply state that everybody else is happy, because a lot of people are fighting invisible wars - just as you are now :)
Sometimes, we need to accept ourselves before were happy. Other people might seem happy, but they are facing their own battles as well.
It's hard to feel happy when you're comparing yourself to others. Our own happiness might not seem so significant if we aren't viewing it for what it is. It is important to focus on yourself in order to determine your happiness. If you truly believe you are unhappy, reflect on why that is. Try to remove the negative things from your life.
The reason for you not to feel happy is something only you can tell yourself. Though I can't tell your why you can't be happy, because it is something that is only you can answer. Start letting it go, start doing things to make yourself happy, and not worried about what the person next to you thinks. Being happy is something quite difficult, but not impossible. Depending on the reason for your happiness, it can be as simple as in acceptance. Most of us do stuff to give happiness to others only, and not yourself. You are always in the first place. Make yourself a priority
There simply isn't an answer to this. Maybe 'why' isn't the right question to ask. Maybe 'how' is a better question. How can you be happy like everyone else? Don't look at the people around you in envy, but turn to them for inspiration. What do they do to be happy? How do they deal with their struggles? Maybe you can learn from some of them and their tricks (life hacks!) or perhaps you can simply see it as something to strive for. A lasting reminder that happiness exists and that it's out there. It's what you're fighting for!
Because you are focusing on everyone else too much maybe? or maybe everyone else is faking it? or maybe you haven't find the thing to be happy about yet? or maybe you are just confused? you can also be alone?
Happiness is different things to different people. We can not compare oursleves to other people because we don't know how they live their lives and what they are thinking.
Different people find happiness in different places, you just need to find where and what makes you happy.
Not everyone is happy, we all have our issues. Don't be too negative though, you can also find happiness.
I can be happy like everyone else if they treat me with respect the courage that I'll succeed and tell funny weird jokes.
The sad truth is not everyone is happy. Most appear to be happy on the outside and seem to have perfect happy lives where nothing is wrong but thats just not the way it is. You are totally normal if you feel sad and it will get better and you will be happy. Life gets better.
Everyone you see out there isnt always happy. Some people may be strong enough to hide their pain in a beautiful smile! Every person has their own challenges to face just like you. Happiness is a choice. So Choose Wisely. And Smile. :)
Be a like a dog. A dog doesn't worry too much. You need lower those worries so you'll receive more happy energy everyday.
I've been asking myself that for a long time now. You have to realize their is something (possibly several things) that are holding you back from being the happiest you can be. It's okay to ask for help to try and figure what the issues are or how to put them behind you. You must also realize their are other people who feel this way and no one is happy all the time.
Sometimes we view others and think that their life is perfect and that they must be so happy. However, sometimes we also forget that everybody is facing issues or battles that others are not aware of. Some people could be suffering from depression behind closed doors, but in a room of people you might think they are the happiest person there. Someone who seems to get everything they want, might be working 3 jobs to get those things. Although you might be feeling down and like everyone around you is happy, you are not alone. So many people out there are going through similar things and feeling similar things as you, but you are strong and will get through it.
Because you are looking for your happiness in all the wrong places. I do it too... only you can make yourself happy.
it may appear that everyone is happy but many people are good at hiding their true feelings. try to do things that make you happy for yourself
you can be just try not to be introvert if you are and express yourself and then you’ll see happiness in everything😊
Believe me there was a point in my life that i thought that everybody have a perfect life and that they are complete but the truth is no one is complete,no one is perfect but you can do your best to make your future much brighter than your past
The people around you typically aren't as happy as they seem. Most young people do not feel happy, because humans typically outgrow school and childhood before they turn 18. Because of this, older teenagers sometimes feel like they are being restricted. So again, chances are that most people around you feel the same way as you, it is statistically most probable. Try to look forward to something, something you're really excited about. If you don't feel you have anything like that, make something. Think about what you will be doing in the future and how you can do stuff now to help you towards that future. It will help give your life purpose right now. Good luck.
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