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Why do I always fall back into the same routine?

Profile: Chester
Chester on Mar 12, 2015
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Routine is your comfort zone. If you're like most people, you tend to operate within this zone because it means reduced levels of stress, knowledge of what to do (or your duties and responsibilities), increased levels of familiarity, and predictability of outcomes. These are all not necessarily good or bad, depending on the situation. For example, if your routine consists of healthy eating habits, then routine is good! If routine means staying in bed and not being able to complete your responsibilities, then this isn't good. If you're trying to push past a routine, e.g. build a good habit while discarding a bad one, and you find yourself falling backwards constantly, it could be that you need to rethink your strategy or get more support. Perhaps your strategy isn't working for you, or you need to do it differently. E.g., if cramming isn't getting you the grades you want at school, perhaps you need another studying strategy, such as review sessions after each week. Perhaps you just need a supportive family member or friend to help you stay on track, like a gym buddy to get you outside for a run when you just want to sit at home and watch another episode on Netflix. Whatever it is, it's important to figure out what's holding you back, and find a specific way to fix that.
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 31, 2016
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Because this is what your used to and many people find change hard. Falling back into your routine can be a good thing but can also be a bad thing but you can change that.
Profile: MVgirl
MVgirl on Nov 14, 2016
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Routines and comfortable. Thinking out of the box or changing our ways doesn't always feel good.....so we fall back to what we know.
Profile: grayWolf19
grayWolf19 on Feb 7, 2015
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Routine makes us feel safe, that is why we tend to subconsciously stick to it. To break out of routine, we need to recognize that we need a change
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 26, 2015
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I'm not sure, really. It just happens. Why? I don't know. It feels safe, maybe. Maybe wallowing in self pity is just my way of coping with things. It takes accountability away from me. It makes it not -my- fault, but my depressions'.
Profile: Smilewhenitrains87
Smilewhenitrains87 on May 20, 2015
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Because you get comfortable doing the same thing everyday. It becomes habitual. That's just human nature. changing it up can be difficult when you've done something the same way for so long. May I ask what is the nature of the routine and why you feel like changing it?
Profile: L1ttleBlueB1rd
L1ttleBlueB1rd on Jun 11, 2015
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In my experience, it's easier to fall back into the same routine (relapse) because it's what I know, it feels more comfortable in a sense because I know what to expect. The unknown is always scary, especially the unknown of recovery. "Who will I be after I recover?" "What will it be like after I recover?"
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 18, 2015
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Simple. Because it's easy. It's hard to break a habit especially if it's addicting. You need to realize your actions, analyze them, and then remind yourself to do different.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 24, 2015
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I become afraid of change and new things. The same routine is something that I feel comfortable with because I'm used to it. This is why it's so easy to fall back into it.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 18, 2016
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Just boredness but dont get depressed try something new like painting or exercise anything you really lik
Profile: Taylorl
Taylorl on Feb 1, 2016
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New goals do not deliver new results, changing our lifestyle does. Lifestyles are not an outcome, they are a process. We must focus on building better rituals, not chasing better results.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 20, 2016
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Routines are hard to change and they usually are the result of habits. If you change your habits your routine will change as well.
Profile: hopefulBraid26
hopefulBraid26 on Apr 4, 2017
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Sometimes falling back into the same routine means that you're not ready to either move on, or start new. You need to have some closure withing whatever it is that you're doing or whoever you're trying to get over.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 2, 2018
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Lazy to change. Comfort zone provides certainty. Did not take step to walk out of comfort zone or learn new things
Profile: peacefulmelissa
peacefulmelissa on Jul 2, 2018
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Probably because you know that routine, it is something you know that works. It is safe. Changing your routine can cause some stress. It is important to take one step at a time. First make a tiny change, then an another and so on.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 16, 2018
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Maybe because you are keeping yourself from moving on to things , being stuck is like a boulder is in the way .. you need to move it
Profile: Allears247
Allears247 on Jul 24, 2018
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It's natural to revert back to a routine that you are accustom to. Change is hard and some are more adaptable than others.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 7, 2021
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We all have felt this way at least once in our lives. Sometimes this happens because we are procrastinating as we are afraid to do a particular task. This fear makes us avoid the task as long as possible. Hence, we should condition our brain to make us like that task. This can be done by trying to figure out why we are afraid in the first place. For example, if a child does not want to go to school then instead of blaming them we should find out if they are facing any problem at school that is making them hate school.
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