Why can't I tell myself it's not my fault?
Anonymous
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Feb 2, 2015
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Because you've been condition to believe it is your fault. Blaming yourself gives you the illusion of control. You can punish yourself rather than accept that events were out of your control. Unfortunately, punishing yourself will not help you move forward. Blaming yourself will imprison you. Loving yourself will set you free.
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KevinL43
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Feb 17, 2015
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Most importantly, think of things in your defense, or things that help you to think that it was not your fault, such as "I was at work, so it couldn't have been me" or "I wasn't in town, so that couldn't have been my fault" and others like it. But if that doesn't help, talk to a listener on 7Cups, they help :)
Live2laugh4others
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Sep 22, 2015
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Because I cannot control people, places, and situations, but I can control my reaction. Things happen for me, not to me. I am not a victim of situations that I created that I wish were not my fault.
helpfulhannah19
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Jun 27, 2017
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Sometimes in life, we take things personally and we feel the need to fix everything. That being said when a problem or some sort of issue arises, our natural instinct is to feel as it is our fault. It is important to be able to know how to solve and move on from the situation rather than worrying that it was your fault.
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