Is shared custody beneficial for my child?
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Moderated by Smita Joshi, BA Psychology / MA / Advanced EFT Practitioner
Updated: Mar 26, 2018
Chaliercy
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Dec 17, 2014
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Yes. The child needs the presence of the father and mother. However parents should always work together for the development of the child, and make shared custody especially good for the child.
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Opal70
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May 17, 2015
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If it is safe for the child to be with both parents, it is very beneficial for the child to know and form a bond with both parents equally. It is important for the child to know both parents love them unconditionally, even though their parents may no longer be together.
ListenLady
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Sep 8, 2015
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Shared custody can be beneficial for your child as long as the other parent is not abusive or unsuitable in anyway. Safety of the child is the most important thing. But if the other parent is a good parent then shared custody would help your child, let them see that they still have two parents who love them and that they still have two parents for support and to turn to. It can help them see that their parents still get along which will stop any emotional stress. A child having to choose between parents can be extremely emotional for them and effect them in very negative ways, shared custody illiminates this worry for them.
ChelseaLR
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Oct 16, 2014
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Shared custody can be a beneficial arrangement for all parties involved, including a child. It helps if both parents are able to communicate effectively and cordially with one another for the best interests of the child.
Anonymous
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Nov 15, 2014
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As a parent, You know your child's needs best and its ultimately upto you how to fulfill them. It may be difficult to decide whether sharing custody is beneficial for them considering the many factors around the issue of custody but it is wise to primarily consider how your ex spouse will influence them, Are they a good influence for your child or are they going to influence them into habits you find offensive and growth hindering ?
Anonymous
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Nov 22, 2014
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It can as a child does needs a mother and father figure; however, this is dependant on the safety and the emotional and physical welfare of the child is ensured.
Tanya26
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Dec 8, 2014
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Yes. Especially if the other parent has no violated any of their rights to be a parent. A child needs both parents in his/her life.
Anonymous
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Dec 20, 2014
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It is most important for a child to have people in their lives that will provide care, safety and love. If both parents/guardians/care givers are in a position to be active, meet the childs needs and play a positive role models in the child's life than it can be beneficial for them to share custody.
AguustinaReckless
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Jan 8, 2015
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Yes, it is! In my opinion children should spend time with their mothers and fathers as much as they can, not only with one of them. It brings problems in the future.
Anonymous
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Apr 16, 2015
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There are pros and cons to having shared custody, and single parent custody. In their own ways they are beneficial for children. Shared custody allows the child to grow up with both parents not having to feel neglect. With that said it might be hard for transportation reasons because parents could live far apart or it also could be stressful on the child as well. Having single custody for the child allows you to have full responsibility with the child, so it is important to contain a healthy relationship and also makes the child feel welcome. On the other hand it could make the child feel disconnected from the other parent.
Anonymous
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Apr 30, 2015
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It can be as long as you maintain a sense of civility with your ex. While it can be hard, it'll be beneficial for the child.
kindmusic
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May 3, 2015
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Unfortunately, this seems like something only you would be able to answer. Ignoring your personal feelings towards them (as hard as that may be!) do you feel like your ex-partner is a good parent? Why, or why not? Do you feel like your child would benefit from having them in their life? What are the consequences of both decisions? These are things you should consider when you make this decision. How patient is your ex-partner with your child, how do they interact, how does your child feel about them... Good luck!
Anonymous
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Jun 6, 2015
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My experience with shared custody was not a good one. My son's husband was unreliable and distracted. His lifestyle and mine were diametrically opposed. He was married and divorced three times. He did drugs in front of my son and encouraged him to smoke when he was just a boy. As a result, my son ended up with a heroin addiction and spent a good portion of his adult life in prison. I have six other children to my husband. I would bet everything I own that none of them have so much as smoked a joint.
ClaireyMarie
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Jul 21, 2015
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Shared custody is beneficial for that child if they get along with both parents, and if both parents are suitable to be caring for that child. I share my son with his father and it's great. My child loves alternating, he has two worlds and he has one on one time with each of us.
delicateEars36
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Aug 9, 2016
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Shared custody can be beneficial if the other parent is a good parent. The more people you have as support in raising a child the better.
Anonymous
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Nov 15, 2016
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As long as you and the mother or father get along then they are fine, but if you hate the father or mother it may cause the child to think it is their fault, which it is not. I have a kid and me and the dad are split, but as little as he is he seems content for the time being but his father and I are still friends.
Anonymous
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Jun 19, 2017
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Yes, a child who was raised by both the parents needs to be able to stay in contact with both the parents. This helps in proper mental growth of the child. There are exception as to when one of the parent is abusive or harmful for the child.