What can my bf and i do to make our relationship work after I experienced abuse in my last relationship? How can he help me and what can i do?

This is more of a “you” answer and what you’ll need to accept, forgive and consciously work towards changing. If you’re open and honest with your partner, tell him your fears and anxieties. Allow him to love you, and support you through this tough change. If you’re committed to each other, patience will be huge on his part. Counseling is a great way to learn how to maneuver through an abusive trauma, helping you to work through the pain, anxieties, loss of self and confidence and show you that that past relationship does not have to define who you are or how you choose to live your life. You will learn to love and accept yourself again, allowing you to be able to trust again. This is a personal journey that we have to do on our own, with the support of the people we love and those who love us. Things can and will get better, but finding yourself again and accepting all that you’ve endured is the first step.