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Andrew21
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Feeling more alone as the days go on.
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Hello. I am Andrew. I only wish to help.




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Am I being under appreciated or expecting too much?
Relationship Stress / by Andrew21
Last post
 July 25th, 2025
...See more I have been with this woman for five years. We separated in 2021 and got back together in 2022 because she cheated. Then after we got engaged in September of 2022, she cheated again with a guy at our work and it caused her to lose her job. She begged and begged for me to stay and I did. Over the next 2.5 years she hasn’t had a steady job and I’m left alone to pay all the bills and fulfill the adult responsibilities. She is constantly correcting me on how I do things with my life and how I do things around the house. She seemingly wants me to give up my aspirations and goals so that we can move into a trailer next door to her folks and start a family there. The trailer is run down and should be condemned. I have stood my ground on this and she becomes withdrawn and withholds affection. All the things I do I barely get a “thank you” or “I’m proud of you.” NOTHING! Just a little while back I was curious and wondered if she was proud of me for anything and her exact words were “I can’t think of anything that makes me proud of you.” THAT WAS DEVASTATING TO ME AND SHE DIDN’T SEEM TO CARE. I give her all the love and praise anyone could ever ask for and I do NOT feel any sort of reciprocal support or love. Not lately. She wants kids and I told her that our current circumstances don’t have room for children. (It’s not that I don’t want children, but given the fact that we are a single income household, it would mean we would struggle financially.) She works part time now but it is nowhere near enough to help me with the bills and such. Just tonight I took her on a spontaneous date night and called the restaurant ahead of time asking if they can leave a little message of love from me to her. They did. The evening was great but I still received no thank you or appreciation. My “advances” were rejected but that’s not what I’m upset about. I’ve been told “no” before and I’m more than capable of accepting that. All this to ask: Am I under appreciated, or am I in the wrong here? Be as honest and direct as you wish. Any input is welcome.
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I am lost and unable to break the chains of my own life.
Relationship Stress / by Andrew21
Last post
 January 23rd, 2024
...See more Hello, I know we don't know each other but I need someone to talk to. I apologize in advance for the emotion/trauma dump that's about to happen: To get you caught up; I have been with this woman for 3 years. During that time, she cheated on me about a year and a half in. We were already living together by that point and we separated. After 6 months of horrible guilt ridden loneliness, we were able to patch things up and get back together in May of 2022. We got engaged that fall and everything was great again. However; in November of 2022 | found out she was sneaking around with a guy at work. Once I found out she begged and pleaded for me to stay. So..... I did. I stayed. After that she left her job (unrelated reasons) and for over a year she hasn't put much effort into finding a job or helping me with the bills We were set to be married by November of this year but I stopped that dead in its tracks because of the no job thing. Everyday I wrestle with my emotions and myself on whether or not this is worth it anymore. I feel so trapped in my own life. Like my say doesn't matter anymore. And the worst part of it all is, I secretly hope she cheats again so l can justify my reasons. Because somehow it convince myself that this is normal I have never felt so alone.
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