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Atsumiko
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I married my high school sweetheart and I'm not happy
Relationship Stress / by Atsumiko
Last post
 December 9th, 2020
...See more I feel so stuck in my marriage. I think we're not a happy, healthy couple. I think I just don't want to spend in that relationship the rest of my life but i can't leave. Despite deep down in my gut I feel it doesn't work for years, I'm too afraid that decision to break up is't right and that I'll regret it to the end of my life. We're a couple since highschool, I was 15 and he was 17 when we started dating. Now we're together for 11 years, married for 2. We have changed a lot but also I think that I ignored so many red flags waving just before my eyes. We have so different view of the world. The most important in that there's a huge gap between our levels of empathy and sense of responsibility. It's hard for him to stand in someone shoes, he very easilly call people idiots, ugly or fat. He don't want to have kids. After mamy conversations and telling him that this is a deal breaker for me, he agreed to have them in the future, but I think he still don't want them. Every time I jokingly suggest not having kids he reacts very enthusiastically. I'm afraid of being "default parent". Sometimes I already feel like I live with a big bearded kid... We also constantly arguing about having sex, because his libido is much higher than mine. Often when I don't want to have sex he nags and sulks, which turns me off even more, because I feel manimulated. He behaves like it's my responsibility to satisfy him. In the morning I tiptoe around the house to avoid waking him up, because i know that after he wakes up he ask for sex or blow job. I think we don't even like spending time together. And when we do, I often feel mentally drained. I want to have family in the future, but I can't imagine starting it with my husband. After few months of analysing all that situation I told him that I want to break up, but he convince me not to do that, he told me that he know he's annoying somethimes but he will work on that. After few month more I still think we should split, but I feel I won't be able to gather so much mental energy to initiate that kind of concersation once more time.
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How it's like to have and EX?
Relationship Stress / by Atsumiko
Last post
 May 21st, 2020
...See more Hi! I just want to know ... How it's like to have an ex boyfriend / fiance / husband? Ex-someone with who you were in long-term commited relationship? I'm in relationship with my husband since I was 15 and I don't have much experience. I had just one boyfriend before for 2 months. I remember that I was crying after that for several months, but after a few years we could spent time together as friends. I'm over him at all. But what about something serious? When you're with someone for 5 - 10 - 15 years? Is it be possible to ever be over? Or it just stays with you for a lifetime ...?
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