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BlastHardcheese
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39 yo virgin, too shy for romance, waited too long?
Relationship Stress / by BlastHardcheese
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 October 16th, 2017
...See more Hello, I am new here. Forgive me if this is the wrong place to post this. I am almost 40 yr old, straight man who is a virgin and never had a girlfriend. I've never been able to talk about this, I'm so afraid to open up to anyone to ask for help. I'm not sure who I could even ask for help. I grew up in a very small community, small elementary and high school. I never fit in with anyone there, I felt, and I would get anxiety when trying to talk to girls, and could never ask them out. I went to college, but it was close enough that I stayed at home while going there, so I didn't meet any friends there. All my friends are coupled up or married with kids. I still live in a small community, and I still feel like I don't belong. My friends through the years have not been willing or able to help me by setting me up or even giving me advice and my family jokes about it, and that hurts more. I've always felt it wrong to mix my work life with any deeper relationships than just friends. I've gotten close to a few ladies over the years, but they only needed to use me for protection or as a secondary choice, and they only saw me as a friend anyway. I don't feel like I can connect to any woman now, because I've wasted so much of my life. Looking back, I see so many opportunities wasted, but I know, also by looking back, that I would not have been able to go thru with them. Now, because I am working part time, and am partial caregiver to my elderly father, and because of my age and shyness, I feel that I've missed out on a great deal. I can't seem to make anyone realize how truly lonely I feel. I feel like there's a big empty place in my heart, I want to love a woman, I just haven't met her yet. And when I do, would I have the guts to ask her out? Maybe I already have had that opportunity pass my by, never to be found again? I truly appreciate the time you've spent reading my post. If you can help me at all, or send me in the right direction, I would appreciate it.
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