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BlueSapphire24
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Did I make the right decision?
Friendship Support / by BlueSapphire24
Last post
 June 9th
...See more I've been very close friends with a group of people for 3+ years whom I cared about so so much. Since the start of the year, people have moved and so we live further away but still talk via group chats and meet up every few months. I've noticed most people in that chat usually talk privately with others and meet up individually as well which is fine, but I've ended up being the person who is always messaging first and asking to do things but I never receive any unprompted messages in return. Everyone is different financially and have different interests so I try to think of things that would cater to them but when they say no and don't follow up with an alternative suggestion I feel rejected and feel like they don't care about me. It gets even more annoying when I later learn that friends have put in effort to meet up with other people despite having financial issues and other things going on and I wonder why Im not being treated the same. I explained this to 2 friends at the start of the year who both told me not to worry but nothing changed. A few days ago I got fed up and left our main group chat and I'm thinking about distancing myself from everyone as no one has reached out to see if I'm ok. I initiated one conversation with someone in that group who asked if I was attention-seeking or had accidentally offended someone. I told her I haven't but to tell me if I have without intending to. I explained to her why I'm upset and she told me I should've spoken more about it but when i tried to, nothing changed. Am I making a mistake by reading into this situation too much?
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Is this normal?
Relationship Stress / by BlueSapphire24
Last post
 April 8th, 2025
...See more For the past few months, I've fallen hard for my co-worker and we went on a good date a few days ago where he was giving all these signs that he liked me too as in person he was flirting and opening up to me emotionally. He also wanted to carry on talking to me after the meal ended. We message both inside and outside of work but nothing has ever gone beyond casual conversation except when we call. The only issue is I always initiate or message first and when we're at work, he usually replies pretty quickly and it's alright. When outside of work though, I usually message first and he'll either not see it for days or will see it and just not reply. It's the same when at work when I try to bring up something serious, he just doesn't respond. Today I messaged saying it's up to him if he wants to go on another date as I don't wanna pressure him by being too much, since he told me he struggles with anxiety and prefers me to 'tell him what to do', but he hasn't replied so I can't get a straight answer from him. All this inconsistency has been making me anxious and I just need someone else's POV. Is he interested in me or not?
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