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CheesAnxiety
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I've hurt my boyfriend and now he's distant
Relationship Stress / by CheesAnxiety
Last post
 November 30th, 2022
...See more As the title said, I've hurt my boyfriend and now he's distant with me. So we've got into a distance relationship since a month now, even if though we loved each other since a lot of months (I was the one who was taking her time). Recently, he was doing perfect efforts since I said I needed them, he was doing things very well but last week, we argued. At first, it was a simple argument but then I exploded. I started to get upset, blaming him for this, for that. But it hurt him then. Next day he said I should stop acting like : "I'll never come back" blabla, he tried to make up things for us, etc, but my behavior hurts him. I then explained that I said all of these under pressure, that I was mad, and of course I know he's doing great efforts but there are still some parts missing which hurt me, and I regret my behavior. He then stopped talking to me for a few days, I saw him online on social medias still, ngl I'm scared he get a third party. Then yesterday in the night, he replied again. He said again thag he is hurt, even if its normal etc, he is probably not doing enough. That he feels like he never makes me happy/he never does enough, that basically, he's a bad boyfriend to me. That's what he feels even if though he loves me and nothing will change that, he said. I replied once again, telling him that thats not about him being a bad boyfriend, he's amazing, and stuff, I complimented him, while saying that it's just some details that I want to improve but it doesnt mean he's bad for me. And yet, no reply. Ofc, while he's still active on social medias. I don't know what to think now. I'm scared he might found someone else, or that he wants to break up. I dont know if I should give him some time, if he's going to come back for a happy relationship again or not... I'm worried, I feel bad, I regret my behavior :/
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I'm scared he might be cheating on me.
Relationship Stress / by CheesAnxiety
Last post
 November 8th, 2022
...See more I already posted a thread about my relationship. Here is a sum-up to recap : Im in a distance relationship since last month, we met in March, etc. We had a big huge fight last week on wednesday and since, I got no news at all even if I tried twice to text him. Nothing... Now, I checked his accounts and I saw that he followed someone and gained a follower on a certain social media, idk who tho, and on *** I see his score increasing a lot today when he is like : "I'm not that active"... Last time he got +100 scores on a week, it was because he had to send pictures of his studies to classmates, but right now we just came back from holidays yesterday... And I'm scared that he won't come back, forgot about me, met someone else and so that could be why he added someone on a social media and on snap, his score increases a lot (it increases by sending or receiving pictures btw)... I dont know what to think .-.
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Anxiety, fear of losing him
Relationship Stress / by CheesAnxiety
Last post
 November 3rd, 2022
...See more Hello ! So uh, first of all I'm a girl who's in a relationship with a guy and we've been chatting since March, and since then, it's pure love, he told me he has that feeling with no one else. We flirted for a long time and only this month I accepted to get into a relationship with him, and he was happy. Only since Friday (first day of holidays though..), we argued every night because of my fault because I'm negative, I didn't understand why he loves me, why me, I'm horrible, he might end loving me less etc.. in short. I doubted his sincerity and his seriousness, his feelings, and he repeated to me that well no, he loves me and nothing will change, and a few days before he even said he wanted me and needed me because he loves me, he found me positive in general and, he wants to be in a relationship with me. Except that my problems are starting to annoy him... So last night in the middle of the night, he told me he wanted to take some distance because he considers that with all of these it's useless to chat, he wants to enjoy his holidays, play videogames (whereas before he said he wanted to enjoy with me too ..) and I told him it doesn't make me happy because, in my opinion, it was necessary to make some attentions to catch back the flame and so on... Except that he says that it's tense, he doesn't want to try to stay or rekindle the flame due to the circumstances etc.. I sent him a message of my sadness about it, because that's really sad it happens and, that suddenly gave the impression that he loves me less... But I'm afraid that it is the case and that he doesn't come back, that he doesn't want me anymore in the end and that I screwed up too much.. imagine taking that distance just to calm things down and be alone, turns into : "I don't want you anymore, I realize I can't ?" ;-; Im so scared.. and I don't know what to think.. I'm scared he realizes that I don't make him happy in the end ;-;' He tried to comfort me before by telling me he dont see anyone else, he loves me, we have a good feeling together, we have our own story etc...but yeah, what if my behavior was too much, and it's too late ? I'm scared to wait and then see his message telling me it's over... .-. (note : I tried to copy past my situation so well, if some check there, I just copy past because that's faster to explain ^^')
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