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ConfusedYuki
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Friendship Support / by ConfusedYuki
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 May 31st, 2025
...See more What do healthy boundaries between friendships/ friend groups look like? I know them for the most part but I struggle with where the line is. What’s a healthy amount of “talk of friends” to other friends? I’m a big communicater and struggle to keep things to myself. Especially if I’m annoyed or need to vent a little. I tend to talk of my other friends personal lives to a best friend, and it has a pattern of backfiring. Am I a bad friend? Is it ok to talk about those things? Am I just making bad friends? (It’s never severe bad talking, more like updates or noticed patterns that I talk about and can let go of later on)
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Patterns and Boundaries?
Friendship Support / by ConfusedYuki
Last post
 May 31st, 2025
...See more Hi so I’m a 25 yr old woman and I’ve always had trouble with my friendships. When i was younger it was stupid stuff and growing up in a bad household. As i’ve gotten older I’ve grown up a lot and figured out how to be a better friend. At least I thought so..? I currently live in another state away from all my family and haven’t dated in years. So I’ve gotten pretty lonely and somewhat rely on my friends for my social needs (obvs). I’ve gotten a little better at choosing them but now i’ve noticed all my current friends are pretty selfish people. I don’t mind too much because I’ve learned to love myself and I’m pretty selfish-sufficient/ independent. But as of recently it’s been bothering me a little more because I’ve taken the big step to move home in a couple months and been struggling a little more mentally because of finances and stress. (Giving some context here) Well it’s come to my attention that I’ve been crossing my friends boundary by sharing her personal life and my few annoyances with another friend of mine. They aren’t super close but they do know each other. The friend I told this stuff too was (to me) considered my best friend/ platonic soulmate. Me and her got into a tiff because she interrupted me mid convo and I went silent (it caught me off guard and i felt unheard). I guess she went to my other friend and told her i was sharing her personal life and saying negative things about her. This has been a pattern for some of my past friendships. I’ve always seen this as something like me over sharing and talking too much and as having a bad friend. I thought it was ok to share those things with your #1? And the negative talk was never “talking ***”, more like little annoyances like her being “selfish and inconsiderate sometimes. I guess I’m just hurt and upset and confused. I know some of these things should be talked about with the friend in question..
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