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DTW2001
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At a quandary with my ex girlfriend
Relationship Stress / by DTW2001
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 November 6th, 2019
...See more I dated someone for 2 yrs who lived with her ex boyfriend because they were raising their child together. They had been broken up for about a yr when we started dating. They seemingly had their own lives but they made an agreement that if they found a partner, the child would not get involved on either side. Anyways, this led to a lot of frustration being I wasnt allowed to get to know her child, or family really at all. Conflict of interest I guess. Well, beside all of this, I fell in love with her, deeply. We never slept in the same bed, we only hung out after work at my house, I wasnt allowed at hers or invited to any family events. There were a lot of small things like her hiding her social media accounts from me, saying it wasnt her but I knew it was. It was all very deceptive. Then there was another side of her, giving, loving, always asking if I needed anything if she went to store, she was seemingly very kind, but I would catch her on little lies. Recently, we have been trying to move on and become friends but something came up, something personal we went through and people at work(we work together) found out about it, she caught wind of it and basically lost it on me. Expresses nothing but disdain for me. Before I met her (ex girlfriend) I was in a bad marriage, so my ex wife is nearby. So, my ex girlfriend claims she had a discussion with my ex wife about some personal things but my ex wife claims it never happened. Who do I believe?!?
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Trying to reconnect with my ex but she is a high functioning alcoholic
Alcohol & Drug Addiction Support / by DTW2001
Last post
 October 22nd, 2019
...See more I have recently tried to reconnect with my ex wife in hopes that we can work through our past issues and see how things work out. We have been divorced over two years but we live in the same city and I am very close to her son, I think of him as my own. I love her very much but one of the main reasons I decided for a divorce initially was because she treated me very poorly. When we were married she would hide her drinking from me but I always knew the signs. When she drinks she gets absolutely hammered, the thing is though, she works 50-60 hrs a week and is able to function just like she hadnt been drinking at all. She is extremely responsible with finances, her son and work. Anyways, as a result of drinking (when she is drunk) she makes decisions that dont support a fruitful or meaningful relationship. She mainly comes over to my house when she wants sex, I can typically smell alcohol on her breath when she is here. To boot, she recently told me she has another boyfriend that she had been hiding from her son for 5-6 months now. I only recently found this out after the fact of starting to reconnect. Point is, we do love each other and I was hoping to work through some things with her so we could potentially try and move forward. She tells me I am the love of her life but her behavior suggests otherwise and her drinking is a huge concern. I really just want to cut her off completely because I have already caught her lying to me about this secret boyfriend.
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