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Criticism for being childless
Women's Issues / by Dynamicscream0501
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 May 26th, 2025
...See more Hi, I am a 36 yrs old woman, married for past 7 yrs. Me and my husband has decided to not have kids. But my parents are finding it very difficult to accept our decision. I have been telling my mom about this decision is many ways but still she refuses to respect it. Last year we had a confrontation with my parents along with my spouse, they directly attacked us saying what will we do with our money, who will inherit our assets, why are we earning so much, how can we just spend money on ourselves. My dad also involved my husband's family saying his brother also doesn't have a kid then all inheritance will just go waste. We did have some heated conversation and then we also tried making them understand. It stopped for that moment as we were leaving the next day, but time and again my mom keeps on bringing this up and she will keep on blaming my husband, that he has brain washed me, he doesn't like kids that's why he has no emotions, he is heartless. She even says things like you are making a big mistake and you'll surely regret, mark my words. All these really affects me a lot. I had lost my brother 15 yrs back and my mom even mentioned that i will be left all alone after my parents are gone. It really hit me hard, and i am feeling very miserable that my own parents can't protect my sanity. I am writing here because I don't want to discuss this with my husband as I don't want him to develop any negative feelings for my parents. Please tell me if i am wrong anywhere is all these mess.
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Marriage issue
General Support / by Dynamicscream0501
Last post
 February 28th, 2025
...See more I have been married for 7 years. 1.5 yrs back i discovered my husband was talking to a lady who is apparently connected with my past. This lady is the wife of one of the guy i had a fling with and she apparently holds grudges against me because her marriage is not going well. I am in no way connected with her present life but still she casually connected with my husband over social media and started talking to get acquainted with our life. Then they met and she told him about my past and also discussed her current marriage issues. My husband didn't tell me anything as he thought that there is no point bringing up past things where he was not in picture and i am nowhere involved in their current life. But his behaviour led me to check his phone and i found that they met. We had a nasty fight and i asked him to cut ties with her, he agreed. I chose to beleive him but got anxious one month later and checked his phone again to find that they both have been in contant touch and used to have long calls and chats. He used to lock yhe hats and delete them. I saw chats in bits and pieces but didn't confront. He kept on lying that he doesn't talk to her and i kept on checking his phone to find evidences. They started getting emotionally attached and that is when i lost my cool. I told him to end this marriage and continue whatever he has with that lady, but he refused and denied everything and labelled it as a friendship and that he is trying to help her in fixing her marriage. This lady gradually demanded more of his attention and time and they used to fight on this. What i feel is that my husband wanted to keep his marriage intact for his social status and have this affair in the backend. Since she was also married he didn't expect that she would want so much of his time. That lady's husband was emotionally unavailable for her and so she kept leaning on my husband and he started enjoying this attention. I had also found chats where he confessed his love for her and mentioned that how he wished they're together in each other's arm in yheir own world away fromm everyone else. But he never confessed this and till date he wants me to believe they're just friends helping each other. I also know they slept with each other once as i had found condom and he said he used it for masturbation. My husband and I are not sexually intimate, he confessed that he is a porn addict and he masturbates and so he doesn't have any urge for me. I honestly never enjoyed sex with him and was left unsatisfied. My husband wants to continue this marriage and wants me to forget the past as he says he is no more in touch with her but I can't trust him anymore. Also i don't have access to his phone to validate this. Also most of the time i feel the love has evaporated and also being sexually distant adds to it. I am maybe at this point just very habituated to be living with him and hence i am not able to make up my mind about yhe fate of this marriage. I feel lonely and depressed most of the time, also the past year's episode hits me frequently to pull me down. I don't know what to do. I never discussed this issue with anyone and it chokes me sometimes.
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