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HopieRemi
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Number of ratings342 Number of reviews163 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish, Spanish Listener sinceJun 23, 2016 Last activein last week GenderFemale PathStep 915 People helped382 Chats5,318 Group support chats4,457 Listener group chats9,299 Forum posts8,414 Forum upvotes11,534
Bio

Due to the nature of my offline work, I do not take 1 on 1 Chats anymore.

To Listeners, I do not do random casual conversations. You can message me for 7cups related questions and mentoring. I reply to PMs as soon as I can.  I am a Listener Coach and Chat Support.

To Members: 

I have been honored to be a listener since June 2016.  Time boundaries and personal boundaries are important for me as I do not talk about myself or use this for support and I have limited time. I am able to support any topic outside of sext, active suicidal ideation, or homicidal ideas. If you feel like you're in crisis (Suicidal, homicidal, self-harming), please check out this helpful resource. 

I have limited availability therefore I am not around for 1-1 chats. I support users in group chats and the forums. If you need immediate support, I recommend you browse for a listener who is online. The only exception is chat referrals so If you have been specifically sent to me, feel free to PM me.

By the way, my favorite color is Blue. What's yours?











Recent forum posts
Tips for Dealing with your Grief
Grief & Loss / by HopieRemi
Last post
 8 hours ago
...See more When we experience loss in our lives, it is important to remember that you have to let yourself grieve for as long as you need to in order to process through the loss.  Others in our lives can help us through the grief process and we should welcome and seek their support but there are things you can do to help yourself as well.  Here are some suggestions you may consider:  * Recognize your loss by putting your grief into words -- write it in a journal, in a letter to yourself or to the individual you have lost, write a forum thread about it memorializing your loved one, express it to a close friend or family member, talk to a spiritual leader or a professional counselor, talk to a listener here on 7cups or share in Sharing Circle. * Join a support group that deals with grief. This can be a safe environment to share about your grief openly, and be surrounded by others who are in similar situations. Your local mental health center, hospital, or even crisis line can direct you on finding groups in your area. You can also join the group support rooms here on 7cups. * Take care of yourself. Keep a regular schedule, eat a balanced diet, get adequate rest, and exercise moderately.  * Avoid taking on any new or extra responsibilities that may add stress to your life * Control the urge to make life-changing decisions. A loss can cause major disruption in our lives  and it common to feel lost. Be patient and make small decisions or identify tasks that can be easily done, this will help you feel confident and in control of life. * Plan activities that give you something to look forward to and things that bring you comfort and enjoyment - a walk with a friend, going out to eat, vacation, a spa day. If a holiday or specific day is particularly hard because of loss, plan activities or ask a friend to plan some that you find supportive * Let your friends, family, and work/school peers know what you need from them. People in your life may feel hesitant to talk about your loss. If talking about the loss would help you, let others know this. Sharing memories tells bereaved individuals that their loss is real  and remembered and their pain is shared. * If you are currently employed, learn if your workplace has a policy on bereavement leave and talk with your supervisor about options if you need time off or a temporary adjustment in work hours, workload, or responsibilities. What are some other things that you would recommend for someone who is dealing with grief? Feel free to share any resources.
Big Rocks and Small Pebbles
Icebreakers and Games / by HopieRemi
Last post
 Monday
...See more The BIG ROCKs and the small pebbles represent how we SEE the world and what we DO in the situations coming at us from all directions. The way we handle situations determine what we GET, or our outcomes. So being able to sort your BIG rocks from your small pebbles is the first step to taking control and implementing the SEE DO GET concept. To help you identify the BIG ROCKS from the small pebbles and understand how to make them work in your favor - use the SEE, DO, and GET concept.  How I SEE the world directly impacts what I do. What I DO ultimately influences the results I get. and the results I GET reinforce the beliefs I have about the world. The SEE DO GET concept predicts the outcomes we get in our lives. This activity is to help you identify where you currently spend most of your time. This will help you identify your BIG ROCKS and small pebbles - how you SEE, what you DO, and the results you GET. * Make a list of the top 5 places where you currently spend most of your time. * What are your top 5 priorities in your life right now? Take a few minutes to review what you answered above and then answer the following. What NEEDS to change? What is the SINGLE biggest thing that ZAPS your time? What one thing is MOST IMPORTANT to you right now? You check out this worksheet which is the source and has a picture you can utilize to help prioritize here [https://www.umsystem.edu/sites/default/files/2020-04/Big%20Rocks%20Small%20Pebbles%20worksheet.pdf].
Grief Misconceptions and Addressing the Truth
Grief & Loss / by HopieRemi
Last post
 April 15th
...See more Misconceptions are dangerous and hurtful. There are several myths about grief. It is important to know what is a myth to understand what's true. The first myth is that grief is an emotion. Believing grief is a feeling is a common misconception. It is easy to associate grief with depression. But grief is more than that. Grief is a process which is filled with many emotions. Some of these emotions are expected like sadness as then more surprising ones would be anger, frustration, guilt, and even shock. It is not uncommon to experience positive feelings during the grief process like relief (that the loved one is no longer in pain). It is also possible to just feel numb. The next myth is that grief is bad. Usually when people think of grief, they don't think of anything good. The grief process itself is healthy. Grief is the mechanism that allows people to deal with loss.  Grief is the brain's way to slowly alter its pathways to accommodate to the new reality (i.e. a world without your loved one). Another myth is that the more grief, the better. Just because some people show their grief more doesn't mean you aren't grieving. Some people naturally have an intense way of showing their grief, some don't. Both ways are healthy.  It is also a myth that there is a right way to grieve. While we widely know that the accepted psychological idea about grief having five stages - denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.  This model was actually first made for explaining how people come to terms with their own terminal illnesses. Grief is not linear. People can go through these stages, can skip stages, repeat stages, and even experience things outside these five stages. Grief is more like a rollercoaster if we are being honest. Everyone grieves differently so don't fret if you don't match the "right" image of grief. Finally, it is a myth that grief counseling is harmful. While most people do not need grief counseling to process their grief, it can be helpful. Grief is something hardwired into the brain, something we have been dealing with since humans existed.  Most people can deal with their grief without professional help but this does not mean grief counseling cannot be useful. It has been shown for people struggling with their grief, counseling can help.  The one undeniable truth is that each and every one of us will eventually lose someone we love. We will all experience grief in one way or another. Grief can be a painful process and all we can do is take it one step at a time. We are not alone. Can you think of any other myths, stereotypes, or misconceptions people think about grief?  What can we do to educate people about the truths behind grief? What are some things you want someone who reads this to know about your personal experience with grief?
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HopieRemi is as sweet as she can be. Marvelous Listener.
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Wonderful listener, and she really cares. Thank you Em! You helped me more than some mental health professionals. Thank you so much!
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Such a great listener! Thank you for taking the time to listen to the details and for understanding how I feel. I am feeling much better after sharing with you. Thank you!
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