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Iamdata
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PathStep 7 Compassion hearts278 Forum posts28 Forum upvotes36 Current upvotes36 Age GroupAdult Last activeJanuary, 2026 Member sinceFebruary 28, 2025
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Drowning but I'd still help you 

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Is this justifiable? I want your opinion!
Relationship Stress / by Iamdata
Last post
 April 2nd, 2025
...See more Hey everyone, lately, I've been seeing a lot of shorts and videos where people say things like, "I love them, but I have to let them go." And honestly, I find it hard to understand. It’s baffling to me when people say, "I love them, but I have to let them go." If you truly love someone, there should be no obstacle you can’t overcome together. Relationships, in my opinion, are about growing together—supporting each other through life's challenges, not using those challenges as an excuse to walk away. Take personal growth, for example. People often say they need to focus on their career or personal goals, and that's why they break up. But why can't you do both? If you love someone and communicate your needs clearly, your partner should understand and support you in pursuing your dreams. A relationship shouldn’t be a setback, but a source of motivation. Having someone who believes in you and supports your goals can make achieving those dreams even easier. The idea of "figuring things out" while in a relationship often feels like an excuse. Growth doesn’t need to happen separately; it can happen together. If both partners are willing to invest in the relationship and grow alongside each other, there’s no reason to leave. A relationship isn’t about holding someone back—it’s about lifting each other up. I just feel like, in many cases, when people say, “I have to let them go,” it’s more about external influences or fears rather than real reasons. What do you think? Do you agree, or is there something I’m missing?
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Small victory without my Muse
Relationship Stress / by Iamdata
Last post
 March 28th, 2025
...See more I just sold my first painting! It's a big achievement for me. The kind of moment I'd rush to tell her about. She'd be so proud, her excitement probably louder than mine. She had always believed in me even when I didn't. A price of me now hangs in a stranger home, I wish she were still in mine.  But she is not here there's no call, no text, no “ I knew you could do it! ” just the quiet satisfaction of a dream inching closer. The bittersweet ache of wanting to share it with the one who made me feel like I could do anything in the world.  I am happy I really am, but I can't help but feel the empty space where her joy would have been. Some VICTORIES are meant to be SHARED but I guess this is just one I'll carry on my own.  I really miss you! I wish you were here beside me today and share my joy like you always did. 
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A Passage to Her
Relationship Stress / by Iamdata
Last post
 May 27th, 2025
...See more Daisies, that's the flower that reminded me of you, I'm sure you remember when I told you that. It's because you were so pure, so bright, and your smile reminded me of the flower, remember?  Two weeks, 3 days , 20 hours, 54 mins, 45 seconds ago you left me.... It was our second chance to put back our 2 years back together.... Why would you leave when I was doing my best. Distance cannot be the reason alone, emotional attraction fell right? Or did you finally see the flaws in my face? Ah! I always told you so, why did you tell me I look perfect in your eyes and why did you even say that if I could see myself through your eyes I would fall a thousand times more, why? Was that all a lie?.... Ik I often acted childish when I was with you but I felt like I could act like one when I was with you because you made me secure, you made me feel as though I didn't have to take on any responsibility and act mature for you...why did you build me a(metaphorical) home when in the end you were just going to leave it... You're now (literally) 2000 miles away from me and ik you have a dream to achieve there. But it's so unfair how you are in a new city and I'm stuck here. Home where we visited every corner, walked every path, remember how we explored all the coffee shops here? Well now tell me where am I supposed to go that won't have a memory of you, of us?....  Gosh ik I'm supposed to be moving forward... There are plenty of fish in the sea I could get any... But everyone knows we only felt attached to our goldfish at home... I want to cry an ocean so that I could just swim back to you... I want the wave to carry me to you, maybe the tide will push you closer to me and maybe stormy sea would ravage the land that separated us. That's how much I want to be with you. Don't you see how much I love you. I'm so sorry I took you for granted when I had you, I'm only human after all. But don't you think this is enough punishment for me. I've learned my lesson and I promise to eat a thousand needles, have my pinky toe hit a thousand time if I take you for granted again. I've learned my lesson I promise. I've had a fair share of exes I remember each by their names but for you I remember you when I think about myself... I've poured my soul unto you... I've never being this sure about someone... Ik i love you because ik i dont want you to come back out of pity but because you want to i value your emotions and I respect you...  Am I allowed to be mad? Why do these emotions comes in wave? Why am I still holding on knowing full well our journey together won't be easy wouldn't I want your life to be easier? I have so many questions and I guess you could answer some and I hope someone does... Because I'm drowning in despair rn... Only if you could feel what I'm feeling right now and you would see how much more I loved you...  The daisies are blooming again but I'm waiting for them to wither.  Guys I'm sorry for the long passage I just wanted to let my feelings out and maybe let people hear it... 
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My journey through a break up
Relationship Stress / by Iamdata
Last post
 March 17th, 2025
...See more Just broke up with someone whom I deeply love and it is tearing away a part of yourself. The pain comes in waves—one moment, I feel strong, knowing my worth, and the next, I’m drowning in memories, regrets, and the fear of losing her forever. Im struggling with questions like : Did I do enough? Will she ever come back? Is she moving on faster than me? I tried everything to hold on—showing my love, proving my worth—but she was slipping away. Now, I’m learning to accept that love can’t be forced. It hurts to think of her in a new city, surrounded by new people, while I’m here, in the same familiar places that remind me of her. The fear of her finding someone else haunts me.  Some days, I want to reach out, to fix what’s broken. Other days, I understand that space is necessary. I’m focusing on healing, even though every song, every road, every small thing reminds me of her. I don’t have all the answers yet but I hope I'll never regret this decision...  She has been the best thing to ever happen in my life and she will be... When I'm sad I'm lost so I hope you guys could help me in any way you could
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Just broke up last night... The end is worth
Relationship Stress / by Iamdata
Last post
 March 4th, 2025
...See more I’ve spent a long time feeling like my heart is being squeezed from the inside, like every effort I put into love is slowly slipping through my fingers. I tried everything to show her my value—I showered her with love, defended our relationship with every ounce of my being, and promised I’d be a better person. I believed that if she saw how much I cared, she’d see what I was worth. But along the way, I learned that love isn’t just about holding on or proving something. It’s about growing together and, sometimes, letting go when things no longer add up. There were moments when I felt proud of the love we once shared—a time when her clinginess made me feel needed, and I cherished every bit of it. Yet, as we both grew and evolved, I began to feel more insecure. I realized that while I was desperately trying to be the rock in our relationship, she was slowly drifting, changing, and becoming someone who no longer needed constant reassurance. The pain of knowing that she might be missing out on who I truly am is almost unbearable. I tried to convince myself that I could become the best version of myself—a man who doesn’t need to beg for love, someone whose value shines regardless of whether it’s recognized. I told myself, “If she can’t see what’s right in front of her, then she’s the one losing out.” And in that moment, I understood that my self-worth isn’t something I can force on someone else. Now, I’m standing at the edge of a new beginning. I know that even though it hurts like *** right now, I have the strength to move forward. I’m learning to let go, not because I don’t care, but because I believe in my own value and in the mysterious ways the universe works. Maybe someday our paths will cross again, and if they do, I want her to see the growth, the strength, and the confidence I’ve built. But for now, I must focus on me—on healing, on growing, and on rediscovering the parts of myself that I thought I’d lost. This journey isn’t easy. I’m still feeling the heavy ache of loss and the sting of unspoken words. But I’m beginning to see that sometimes, the greatest love we can ever have is the love we show ourselves. And if by sharing my story, I can help someone else feel a little less alone, then maybe this pain isn’t entirely wasted.
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