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Katie4Life
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Hi I’m Katie a 48 year old trans female (AMAB) who is finally trying to embrace myself and my truth.

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I want to be me
LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by Katie4Life
Last post
 August 29th, 2025
...See more Hi 👋 I hope everyone is well, I’m Katie and happy to be here. I’m hoping to make some friends, get some advice, and learn as much as I can. I’m in my late 40’s, married to a wonderful woman and have a young child. My wife does not know about Katie…yet, if I was not such a chicken I would come right out and tell her but instead I keep doing and saying things to try to get her to question me (which she has not done yet). I work in a field not very accepting to someone like me, almost made a questionable decision this morning, took a pair of my wife’s underwear and was going to wear them to work but changed my mind at the last minute just in case something happened and I got hurt, didn’t want to embarrass my wife if something like that happened.  If I knew she would be accepting I’d tell her tomorrow but fear is keeping me from that. I’ve bought, hidden and purged my female clothing so many times hoping my urges would go away but lately they have only been getting stronger and will not subside. We’re married almost 10 years and until a few weeks ago a never touched her clothes out of fear of her finding out but lately I need to be wearing some form of female clothing for at least a little while daily just to keep me mentally stable so I have been wearing her things when she isn’t around or even her underwear under mine when we’re just lounging. I know it’s reckless and I’m being dishonest to her but I’m just so scared of losing her.  Thank you all for listening to my rant ❤️
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Married and Transfem (amab)
LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by Katie4Life
Last post
 August 26th, 2025
...See more Hi everyone, I’m Katie and starting this thread to hopefully talk with some friends about how you come out to your spouse. This is something I’m working up to I hope, I’ve had some helpful discussions with some listeners here and also reading other threads. I’ve spend over 30 years denying who I am, believing I had a fetish or was going through a phase but lately my need to be me has been all consuming. My wife of almost 10 years is a wonderful woman and I have an amazing child who adores her daddy; I think there is a chance my wife would stay with me but there is a part of me that also is not really sure because she has been through a lot and still is going though her own physical and mental health struggles. I truly think I would be content not going through a full transition and could be happy partially being me. I think I would be fine if I could wear female undergarments under my male clothes during the day if I could dress as me at home. I’ve also considered doing low dose hrt which will allow subtle changes over time and help with my mental wellbeing. I’ve considered doing the hrt but not telling her but was told that would be a serious betrayal, we have no intention of having any other children so becoming infertile isn’t a concern of mine and I’m slightly heavier (but really starting to lose weight) and my “man ***” could hide some of the growth there. I would love to hear any and all advice that you could or would like to give me, please and thank you
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