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Kehau74
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Feeling frustrated and stuck
Relationship Stress / by Kehau74
Last post
 February 7th, 2020
...See more I've been in a relationship for 5 yrs now. The first 2 was good, but afterwards I started feeling unappreciated, taken advantage. I'm not good with express my feelings. I felt I was only there to cook, and clean, take care of the kids, remind him bills are due, etc. Not once did he stop and think hmm what can I do to make her day better or my gf is always doing for me what can I do for her? When I did say something he brused it off. Over time I stopped telling him and started putting up walls. Fast forward to now. I don't love him anymore and I've started premenopause, He says Im not being open minded and that I wont try or it could be my hormones affecting my decision. I'm on medication for my hormones, and I still feel the same. I don't love him. He doesn't understand how what he did could cause me to fall out of love. I've explained to him its not what you didn't do it's the fact you brushed my feelings aside. That hurt more than anything. When we are together I feel he manipulates me and begs me to love him. I feel the need to give him and please him even though I don't want to. I don't know how else to explain this to him. I feel so stuck and I don't like seeing myself go down this path of always giving in to him.
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Relationship Stress / by Kehau74
Last post
 January 31st, 2018
...See more Hi everyone! My name is Kehau. I moved to Hawaii 4 years ago after my divorce to put distance between my ex, be near family and to a fresh start. While in Hawaii I met a guy online. Weve been dating for almost 4 years. Prior to us dating I had told him I wanted to be in a relationship where it was equal and not one person doing all the work. He agreed. As we progressed I noticed I was to it all. Cooking, cleaning, driving, checking if his kids had homework, helping them, and so on. I voiced to him I wasnt happy and he needed to help. He did not. Each year I tell him to help me and he does nothing. Our relationship has now taken another turn. He is diabetic and has issues downstairs which result in us not having sex unless we are both on xtc (1 a month). Now we go 5 months no sex. I confronted him and he said its not that I dont want to it takes me long time to get in mood. So I rather get off to porn which he does several times a day. I feel like Im only here to make his life easier. I love him and wish he could meet me halfway. Im starting to want to give up trying. The kicker is he acts like we are perfectly happy. How can he not see Im not happy? We are like roommates then anything else.
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