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...See more Edit: Sorry, I posted this in Relationship Check Up as I'm a newbie and still figuring this out We have been emotionally distant for a few months now. He suffers from clinical depression and I feel as though it has gotten worse over time. He was prescribed medication in February of this year which didnt agree with him. So the medication was changed in April. He is still on the same medication. I noticed significant changes in his moods and energy, but at the same time, felt he was withdrawing regarding his feelings and emotions towards me. I felt as though we were becoming emotionally distant. We became less and less intimate. He started putting less effort into the relationship. Stopped planning dates for us, stopped wanting to spend alone time together. It became "I am doing this this weekend" rather than "Would you like to join me this weekend" and, "I've been invited to... [/]" rather than "we've been invited to...: [/] He started preferencing his friends. His work also became more stressful as he started working 14 hour shifts with minimal days off. Last night he came over to end things and his words were so contradictory. He kept saying hes at the end of his rope, hes reached the end of his line. That he cannot go on. But then on the other hand he was still saying how much he loved me and how beautiful I was. He kept bringing up petty fights that we had had previously, fights that had been resolved and that were easy to fix. As though he was using the pettiness as an excuse to leave, because it was easier to leave than to fix the problem. So Im not 100% sure if he left me because I hurt him unintentionally. Or if hes too deep in his depression at the moment, to handle being close to anyone. I'm also worried that what I felt were petty issues, were possibly not as petty in his eyes, and I'm worried that I've pushed him away. His friends have reached out to me to tell me how sad they are that we have broken up. They all say the same thing - that I was good for him and how he's a changed person. His sister agrees, and his mom often thanked me for loving him as unconditionally and as strongly as I do. So I'm more confused and lost as ever, knowing that he's left me. I know that I need to give him space, and let him clear his head. I have suffered from depression myself for many years (but have been free from the illness for over 5 years) so I know how trapped in his own head he is feeling right now. I worry that if I dont reach out to him, he will think I have abandoned him and that I dont love him anymore. But I also worry that if I reach out too soon, it will come across as obssessive and needy. Does anyone know when is an acceptable time to reach out to him? Or should I not reach out to him at all, and rather let him come to me when hes ready?

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