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LagerthaLisa
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Relationship Stress / by LagerthaLisa
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 January 29th
...See more I don’t know where to start. Sorry if the post is a bit long. I have been in my current relationship for close to 20 years, as with all relationships we have had our ups and downs and we have managed to work through most of our issues but since he was diagnosed with depression during COVID things have not been the same. I am not blaming the depression but I am wondering if it’s contributing to our current issues, he has seen someone and is on medication and is having some therapy. Since he’s been on the medication and been in therapy, he has been able to return to work and has stopped hiding out in the bedroom but he is not present at all with me, I sometimes get one-word answers or no responses at all. I feel completely invisible! I have talked to a counselor myself and they helped me realize that my needs are valid too. I have tried many things to get more presence from him but I feel like I’m talking to a wall, I am so incredibly lonely! I managed to get him to agree to couple’s counseling and we have had a couple sessions but I feel like I am dragging and pushing him to attend and to participate. I was so hopeful that counseling would help us and it might yet but I don’t know how to keep living like this. There is a bit of history of unfaithfulness (if I’m honest on both sides) and I am of course worried about that as well. Being invisible is so incredibly hard on my self-worth, something that I am always trying to improve. I’m trying to keep this post from turning into a novel…..thanks for listening!
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 January 18th
...See more I'm here because I'm hoping to find a safe supportive place to talk, listen and connect with others who value kindness and understanding. I've been quietly carrying a lot and realized I can't carry it alone anymore. I'm hoping to strengthen my self esteem, my trust in myself, learn how to set boundaries and improve my relationships. 
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