Hi

@LagerthaLisa

Welcome 🤗 

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@LagerthaLisa

Welcome, 3 weeks for me, some similar reasons, I'm sure you'll find the support you're look in for.

True ! It's the moment sister, it will make you up .

Stand up for yourself and be so dedicated in improving yourself and your relationship that it at the end benifits your life.

Don't carry the load alone it's overwhelming I know that it breaks the every ounce of confidence and makes us hate ourselves but don't ever let that overpower you, you are stronger than your emotions.

Virtually and on these platforms it does provide listeners and community but best is real life trusted person who can help and communicate and understand your problems and find a solution that helps you , if that's not available then please find online there are people who do that work of helping.

Emotional load accumulates in your joy you might feel up but when it vanishes it returns harder and in tough moments it can worsen and lead to something catastrophic.

So please don't take it lightly, reach out , you'll feel initially good in middle it's bs and feel to quit but please don't that's a phase survive that moment in that have 1 thing that motivates you!

Suggestion : Read something good like Self help books , finance or things (if you want to learn about something) as you get better in this you become more confident and experienced and valuable asset you'll rise if you do this

Invest time effort and money in your health do gym , exercise/sprint or yoga whatever suits you!

Don't isolate that's FOR SELF ESTEEM

Listen carefully I have gone through same self esteem problem and it worsens if you don't speak hesitate and isolate and you'll suffer alone as others can't read your mind you have to talk about that !

Work on your posture, eye contact , be a better listener , show emotions and also have control over them in conversations, take initiative and talk it sucks first day , second day you'll have some gained experience from first day just don't hesitate speak up , third day will be somewhat better

Some days will be down I know but average out you'll see improvement if you have one clear thing in mind don't hesitate to communicate!

You'll gain confidence

For peace : Read something religious if you are ! Example Read Proverbs or Bible parts if you are Christian it gives strength and hope God is with us and in harsh situations it's a straw that can prevent a person from drowning in the sea !

For autonomy and boundaries: Self help books are great

You'll develope emotionally, spiritually , physically and confidence will increase and you'll gain strength

And don't hesitate speak out everything will get better

Peace