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Lew2101
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PathStep 2 Compassion hearts10 Forum posts5 Forum upvotes3 Current upvotes3 Age GroupAdult Last activeFebruary, 2022 Member sinceAugust 28, 2017
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My girlfriend did a sudden 180
Relationship Stress / by Lew2101
Last post
 February 26th, 2022
...See more My girlfriend and I were going really well. We are in love, she gave me her keys to her place in Barcelona, I live in the UK. I was due to go over for a week (starting yesterday) and about 10 days before she calls me up saying she’s unsure. before this she was the one that was infatuated, I even had a bit of a moment because I thought it was so fast but it got back on track. She assumed I wouldn’t go and live in Barcelona and when I told her that I would and I’d consider it, she was shocked and needed time, but didn’t specify. She’s almost been ghosting me and we sent voicenotes to which the last one I said we should talk but nothing back. She says she loves me and mentioned that she didn’t think I’d come to Barcelona, now she feels weird and was annoyed that I left it until as we were breaking up. What should I do? Do I try to get her back? Do I leave it?
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Advice needed over here (grab a tea)
Relationship Stress / by Lew2101
Last post
 September 21st, 2021
...See more I’ve been in a relationship for nearly 3 years, here’s the thing. I’ve spent 18 months of that in Australia, 15 months apart from her. When I came back it was good, it’s been 6 months since I returned. She’s great, she really is, we get on and my friends and family love her. Even you would. She’s a genuinely lovely person, one of the best. Recently I’ve not felt the same, I’ve felt disconnected, it’s been going on for a while. I don’t feel physically attracted to her, yet I like being with her in person. When we talk on the phone (she lives 500 miles apart (I know, I don’t make this easy)) I can’t seem interested, I don’t feel myself, and im beginning to not like the person I am when that happens. I become detached and not wanting to be physically touching (and one of my love languages is touch) I find myself looking back at past relationships and I felt a genuine want and need with them. I felt way more chemistry with other girlfriends. I use to have that with my girlfriend, is that time that’s created that lack of spark? Right now I feel there’s high compatibility, low chemistry. I don’t feel the physical attraction and ‘spicing it up’ doesn’t feel right. I love her, but I’m not sure in what way anymore. What the hell should I do.
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