My girlfriend did a sudden 180
My girlfriend and I were going really well. We are in love, she gave me her keys to her place in Barcelona, I live in the UK.
I was due to go over for a week (starting yesterday) and about 10 days before she calls me up saying she’s unsure.
before this she was the one that was infatuated, I even had a bit of a moment because I thought it was so fast but it got back on track.
She assumed I wouldn’t go and live in Barcelona and when I told her that I would and I’d consider it, she was shocked and needed time, but didn’t specify. She’s almost been ghosting me and we sent voicenotes to which the last one I said we should talk but nothing back. She says she loves me and mentioned that she didn’t think I’d come to Barcelona, now she feels weird and was annoyed that I left it until as we were breaking up.
What should I do? Do I try to get her back? Do I leave it?
@Lew2101
Oh that does sound quite strange, I can see how it is making you feel confused too. Before making any decisions, maybe just try to talk to her once about why she behaves on that way and what's really going on, what does she want moving forward?
I hope things get settled soon, take care
Thank you.
I guess it’s the not knowing. I don’t know whether to reach out.
She hasn’t replied to my voicenote from a few days ago. I kinda just want to know where I stand. It’s super tough to have someone saying all that then turn it off so quickly.
@Lew2101 I am so sorry to hear That hopefully, she will reach out when she is ready Have you actually met up with her in person? good luck😊
@sallymae3459 It’s difficult, she’s in Barcelona I’m in the UK.
@Lew2101 yeah, a lot of ldr's don't work because you never see the person but some can make it work it really depends on the dynamic of the relationship too not trying to be discouraging but there are pros and cons to long distances.
@sallymae3459 Yeah, I’ve done ldr before (Aus-UK). I said I’d live in Barca and come back and forth. I think right now I would like to know where I stand. Is the silence because she’s done or is there any chance of us making it work.
what do you think is a best approach? I don’t want to seem pushy
@Lew2101 i don't know i wouldn't do LDR so i can't say