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LilLisa1
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Self help book recommendation
Relationship Stress / by LilLisa1
Last post
 November 12th, 2021
...See more Hello everyone! I suffer from crippling depression of which my husband is very aware. Hes been very supportive however hes definitely feeling burnt out by my mental health and its severely imparting our marriage. Does anyone have any book recommendations for someone like me looking to improve my marriage despite having severe depression? Thanks all! Lisa
Over planning
Anxiety Support / by LilLisa1
Last post
 December 1st, 2019
...See more My husband is very futuristic and loves to plan for the future. He's already made plans for our lives 5 years from now. I love this quality about him because it helps to keep us focussed on our goals but lately it's been overbearing. We're currently living on an island in the Caribbean but I'm very much a homebody and I miss Canada. The move and subsequent life here has been a source of a lot of my stress and anxiety. We're studying on this island for another 9 months and he's been planning the move off of this island since before we even got here. Every single day he brings up the topic of planning the move off the island and it causes me so much anxiety to the point where I've completely shut down. I can't focus on school, I can't focus on planning, I can barely even take care of myself. I've become so depressed and have expressed this to him. I've told him multiple times that I can't have this conversation anymore but it ultimately leads to a fight. He hates that he can't have these conversations with me and I hate that we can't talk about anything else. He knows how much of a bad place I am in mentally and every time (weekly) we have the serious talk about my mental wellbeing, he promises to do better and eases off the future talk for a few days but seems to forget and goes right back to it a few days later. He brings up the importance of planning this so we can go on to live the lives we've always wanted and that I need to do things now to prepare for our future which makes me feel guilty and further shuts me down. He has a sense of urgency and is frustrated by my lack thereof. I don't know what to do.
Over planning
Anxiety Support / by LilLisa1
Last post
 February 13th, 2020
...See more My husband is very futuristic and loves to plan for the future. He's already made plans for our lives 5 years from now. I love this quality about him because it helps to keep us focussed on our goals but lately it's been overbearing. We're currently living on an island in the Caribbean but I'm very much a homebody and I miss Canada. The move and subsequent life here has been a source of a lot of my stress and anxiety. We're studying on this island for another 9 months and he's been planning the move off of this island since before we even got here. Every single day he brings up the topic of planning the move off the island and it causes me so much anxiety to the point where I've completely shut down. I can't focus on school, I can't focus on planning, I can barely even take care of myself. I've become so depressed and have expressed this to him. I've told him multiple times that I can't have this conversation anymore but it ultimately leads to a fight. He hates that he can't have these conversations with me and I hate that we can't talk about anything else. He knows how much of a bad place I am in mentally and every time (weekly) we have the serious talk about my mental wellbeing, he promises to do better and eases off the future talk for a few days but seems to forget and goes right back to it a few days later. He brings up the importance of planning this so we can go on to live the lives we've always wanted and that I need to do things now to prepare for our future which makes me feel guilty and further shuts me down. He has a sense of urgency and is frustrated by my lack thereof. I don't know what to do.
Lost purpose - lost excitement
Anxiety Support / by LilLisa1
Last post
 November 18th, 2019
...See more Hey everyone, I am Canadian and currently living in the Caribbean with my husband. He's attending medical school here while I stay at home and do my master's schooling online. Before coming here, I worked full time as a social worker helping individuals experiencing homelessness and addiction. My life had so much meaning and purpose. I loved what I did and I miss it every day. Now that I'm on this island, I've tried to remain connected to my line of work by doing my masters in mental health, and I've started an addiction medicine club at the university here, however, there aren't many people who share my passion and I'm feeling greatly isolated. The longer we're here, the more isolated and lost I become. Nothing excites me anymore, I've started procrastinating or completely neglecting my duties as a student, wife, and overall human being. I've fallen into a great depression and I have trouble getting up every day. My husband and I got married since moving to the island and I can't even say I was excited for my own wedding. That being said, I know I married the right man and I love him deeply, but nothing, even my wedding, excites me anymore. I'm not motivated to do anything. I've tried implementing routine, yoga, meditation, journaling, reading... I've tried whatever I can think of and yet nothing sticks. I know it's starting to negatively affect my very new marriage and I resent that I'm missing out on newlywed bliss. Has anyone gone through something similar and gotten through the other side? I'm in need of help
How do Group Support Rooms work?
Newbie Hub / by LilLisa1
Last post
 November 27th, 2019
...See more I see on the calendar that there are group support room meetings but I've checked the group chat rooms when there's supposed to be chats and there weren't any running. I even made sure it was the right timezone. Do they always run when posted on the calendar? If so, how do I join?
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