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LittleMe96
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Cold Feet
Relationship Stress / by LittleMe96
Last post
 December 15th, 2022
...See more Hello! background - I’ve been with my fiancé since June 2018. We share a rental together and have a cat (my angel❤️). now I’m not one to play the victim or claim in innocent, but my fiancé is bipolar (un medicated by choice) and a heavy alcoholic, compulsive liar and narcissist. He has punched holes in walls, doors, broke many things we own and screamed for no reason at all - almost like a toddler tantrum. He changed his ways and became so much better! Now we have recently moved and he’s changing back already. Even now I just said I was going to curl up to sleep soon (5 minutes ago) and now he is shouting at me calling me a liar and worse all because I’m not asleep. we are due to get married next year and I really don’t know if it’s what I want. He tells me he doesn’t love me and I’ve said the same as I’m losing faith. But it is ALWAYS my fault, all I’ve done tonight is come home and he’s accusing me now of cheating. I’m so confused but I feel like I can’t leave. Any advice?
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I don’t know how to leave
Relationship Stress / by LittleMe96
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 October 10th, 2022
...See more so me and my fiancé have been together just under 4.5 years. We are due to get married in October next year! However, we have a big problem of a third in our relationship…alcohol. He drinks a lot, to the point he gets violent (breaking doors or furniture), he screams and makes up situations that haven’t happened or shouts at me for things I haven’t said. He’ll gaslight me and even lie to my face telling me he hasn’t drank as a bottle of vodka is sat beside him and it’s blatantly obvious he has been drinking. This has gone on for years but he keeps telling me he’ll get better then he does for enough time for me to let my guard down. It’s gotten so bad my neighbours have threatened to call the police and our landlord to have us evicted! I suffer severe anxiety and I know I can’t do this anymore. I love him but I’m trauma bonded and I know I’m not happy. Now I know I’ve shouted back, but nothing like this and I know I’m no angel. But I can’t do it anymore. Background, we live together in a private let and we only share our cat. I don’t know what to do, I think I want to leave but I can’t? I’ve only ever ended one relationship when I was 14, I’m now 26. Please help :-(
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