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Lostgirlie
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PathStep 2 Compassion hearts22 Forum posts2 Forum upvotes2 Current upvotes2 Age GroupAdult Last activeSeptember, 2024 Member sinceMarch 15, 2016
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I think I’m attached and I want to stop!
Relationship Stress / by Lostgirlie
Last post
 September 10th, 2024
...See more I’ve been friends with a guy for two months and I think I’m having feelings for him. And what made it complicated for me to stay friends with him was that we slept together. The feelings for him are increasing more and more that I had to stop talking to him for a few days so things can cool down and we can be casual friends again. I watched a video stating that if I want to get serious, I have to address it at the beginning of the relationship. But I don’t want to. I don’t want to screw up everything we had. If I ask him if he wants to be serious, that could ruin our friendship. I’ve also been through an experience of having someone not wanting a relationship and I just recovered from it and I don’t want to go through the same pain again. We have really great communication and we’re doing fine being casual right now. Or if I were to ask him, I want to wait at least another month or wait until he brings it up. I just want someone to vent to about this right now because I feel crazy and I don’t know if I feel this because I genuinely have feelings for him or if it’s just attachment because he treated me with respect. Thank you to anyone who took the time to read this. I appreciate you. ❤️
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Conflicted…
Relationship Stress / by Lostgirlie
Last post
 May 27th, 2024
...See more I have a crush on a guy who wanted a casual relationship and I wasn’t sure at first if I wanted to go casual with him because I’m a virgin and it would be like playing with fire going through this. But at the same time, I don’t want to let him go. I keep thinking about him and I want to at least kiss him. I want to get to know him more and connect with him. And I may want to have my first time with him. But then I feel guilty because I’m scared I’m going to disrespect my standards and lose my feminine power for falling for him. I’m also scared I’m going to get ***-shamed if anyone finds out. I keep having these thoughts about him whenever I’m working or busy and it distracts me constantly. I keep wanting to meet up with him so bad, but at the same time, I’m trying to make myself busy so that I don’t get so anxious to see him. The worst part is that I’m working on stuff so much and putting myself into extreme burnout that I can’t go out and escape and I’m scared that working more is going to make me think about him even more. I know he’s not thinking of me so I just think it’s weird & stalker-like that I keep thinking about him (I also confessed and told him that I couldn’t stop thinking of him, and I feel so embarrassed). I also scared of getting attached and that I’m too much of a hopeless romantic to go casual. But I’ve also been trying to hold on to my virginity and I don’t know if I’m holding on because of my standards or holding on so that society dosen’t judge me.
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