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Phirapea
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What should i do with my girlfriend's ex?
Relationship Stress / by Phirapea
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 June 6th
...See more Hi, this is basically a sequel to my last thread So to tldr from that, She had a *** ex that have done bad things with her and she for some reason wanted to reconcile with him back. Out of trust and respect of her feelings, i allowed it with some boundaries. Although i have talked about the discomfort to her. We're also in a long distance relationship which really made everything difficult— Now it's still going on, she has been breaking alot of the boundaries more often, Talking about him more often. Which made me really uncomfortable and made me feel compared and jealous. And i've made it clear for her everytime. But last argument, she called my feelings as ″***″ and even called me sensitive because i kept whining about him. And of course, i feel really heartbroken from it. It feels like my feelings are being unheard. Now she's practically became closer to him despite her telling me she won't. Her vent channel seems to be hinting to it too. ″Comfort is comfort, no matter who you got it from am i rite?″ ″***, it feels so wrong. but i can't help feeling touched by it″ ″No wonder he likes cars″ *Screenshot of his chat* What should i do with her? I've taken a break from her for one day.
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My girlfriend is friends with her ex, is that okay?
Relationship Stress / by Phirapea
Last post
 May 17th
...See more This is my first time having a girlfriend, we're classmates and we kinda clicked so we started talking for awhile. Things led to another and we suddenly get very close after we bond over our last love. Things were going well, then she warned me she was a bad person right before i confess. She told me she was sexually assaulted by her previous boyfriend and completely ghosted him. But unfortunately, they were in the same school. His class were practically infront of us so she'd get anxious everywhere she goes. And even in the same english club too. But somehow, she still wishes to be friends with him. Feeling guilty, she wants to have another chance just so things can turn out differently. I brushed it off as some coping mechanism. But it kept happening, where it would flicker between ″I wish he'd get cursed with no ***″ and ″I wish things had turned out different″. Sometimes even asking me for updates about him—? But then, she moved out. We're in an LDR and she promised me to stop thinking about him. Until that.. fell short of course.. Her ex apologized to her at Eid, which i don't mind with. But then, she started getting closer.. Until, she asked me she wants to be friends with him. I said no, becsuse i'm honestly uncomfortable with the dude aswell (and i've made it very clear before this too). But she insists, so much. It turned to a whole argument. At the end, i concede. She gets to be friends with him with some boundaries. But then she came to me later while saying sorry and told me she was going to stop. It's a pattern with these, really. Where if i reassure she would escalate, and if i actually accepted her offer on stopping she'd argue and i'd be called not understanding her. So i choose the first, and she actually escalates, which turned to another argument. It's exhausting to see their friendship, knowing what he did to her. Causing emotional and physical pain to her. I know she's probably trying to prove she has moved on, but does it have to be this way?
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