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ShaolinFly
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Being an adopted child, and knowing my mom values her biological child over me
Family & Caregivers / by ShaolinFly
Last post
 June 28th, 2022
...See more For years my little sister has tormented me. She’s followed me when I tried to get away from her, forcefully outed me to my mom, and consistently berated me and the friends I make. My mom loves her more than me, and by association with my sister’s hatred towards me, also dislikes me. Too many times have I had arguments with my mom, and the reason has always been my sister. Too many times have I begged her to do something to stop her from tormenting me, and every single time the situation has been flipped on me. I have been gaslighted, physically and mentally abused, and treated horribly, all because my sister is the perfect child who can do no wrong. it hurts, because I grew up trying so hard to make my mom happy. I still am to an extent. I am still so severely affected by her seemingly never ending disappointment in me. But it’s crazy, because I made it to college, I get straight A’s, and yet I am still berated for being stupid or unable to navigate or “weird”. my sister on the other hand, is materialistic, has never given a damn about anyone but herself (including my mom), constantly makes a mess of the house, and constantly takes after everything she sees on social media. My mom has not made any attempt to instill any type of affective parenting in my sister, so now she goes to school and gets into fights and bullies other kids. Yet, it is still me that faces disdain. It is still me who gets shut down when I try to connect. It is still me who my mom has blatantly told over and over that she doesn’t care about my interest. just recently, my mom officially kicked me out after removing all resemblance of me from the house after I left for college. It all started over something stupid, like usual having to do with my sister. The issue was over a shower, I simply told my sister that I was showering after my mom (we were about to go on a trip) and they both just looked at me like I cursed god. We ended up getting in an argument over how they constantly gang up on me and mock me and everything under the sun, until finally I did something as simple as shrugging my shoulders. My mom told me to call an Uber to my boyfriend’s place near our university and I just… left. Now I’m staying with him during June and being sent to Arizona for July. My mom has literally made it clear that I am not welcome, and it just hurts because she respects me less than a literal child. anyway, that’s my rant. Sorry about all this, just having a rough day.
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Depression, ever-constant feeling of hopelessness
Depression Support / by ShaolinFly
Last post
 June 19th, 2022
...See more Hi guys. This is my first time ever posting here in a while, I think I deleted my older posts out of embarrassment. anyway, recently got diagnosed with severe depression. It’s cool knowing but I’m getting no treatment for it besides ineffective therapy sessions that just instruct me to make calendars and think about the positive side of things. I’m having trouble thinking positively when my life just progressively keeps getting worse. At this stage, I’ve just finished my freshman year of college. Staying with my boyfriend until July, but went home for a family trip. My mom officially kicked me out, and I am now being sent to Arizona for July. For years the origin of my depression has been my little sister, who relentlessly torments me, and who my mom values over me. I got kicked out because my sister got an attitude with me and I didn’t apologize. For once I finally called out the unfairness and the abusiveness of the situation and my mom just sent me home before we could even go on the trip. I am currently back with my boyfriend, but “looking forward” to a soulless, empty stay in Arizona where I have no one to talk to or hang out with, no beaches to run to when I’m depressed, and no ability to skateboard considering how hot it is. My life seems to be going down the drain more and more with each day. I was under extreme stress during Fall quarter, and was forced to switch my major because I had no one to support me and no one to help me. Instead I actually got mockery and disappointment for failing to keep up with subjects that my mom never cared about me learning. My whole childhood was spent begging to go to a better school, and I was ignored and ignored until I graduated. Now my mom is talking about sending my sister and my little cousin to better schools, and it’s honestly such a slap in the face how undervalued I am. anyway, just venting here. Don’t mind me, feel free to skip past. Trying my best to stay above water.
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