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Toniestuff
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Can 2 borderline work together?
Personality Disorders Support / by Toniestuff
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 December 24th, 2021
...See more I received my test results from a borderline assessment test not too long ago. I can't exactly remember the number percentage but it was enough for me to under go a treatment plan for BPD. My issue currently, I want to make a relationship work with someone who is also BPD. We actually met 4 months ago and started hanging out, that I realized we had a lot in common in both hobbies and mentally. I felt like my void was complete as I finally found someone I'm campatible with, someone I can relate too and tell all my darkest secrets too. Eventually I've become attached, it gets so bad when I'm not around this person I eventually starve myself of food until I can see them again. My body loses appetite and nothing else matters to me but this person. I don't want to lose this, it'll tear me apart. All my past relationships with other people failed miserably, they didn't understand who I was or could care too. I know I'm different, it feels nice to have someone else to be different with so I'm not alone. We both haven't see each other since November 5th, I remember this day well it was our last time together and also our last kiss. It's been tearing at me day by day, I have dreams about this person. I know we both suffer over the distance, at times he would call my phone in a abandonment panic attack. I tell him "you didn't have to go" I can't read his mind or understand why he would move so far way from me knowing it'll hurt him as well. I don't know what to do in this situation. We where supposed to get a house together. At one time though in a drunken state he proposed. I tried to move on for my own health and safety not to become s*iCal over this man, as messed up as that may sound but no one else can replace him, he completes me, no one can. I need this to work out or I'll be left with nothing. He's the only person that sees me for me, he sees my flaws no one else will. He understands and knows my anguish. How do I make this long distance relationship work? It's so hard too when I can't physically touch or see them.
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I don't know what to do
Personality Disorders Support / by Toniestuff
Last post
 December 6th, 2021
...See more Here's my problem. I've become attached to a individual and it hurts when I'm not around this person. I feel like my life is at a life or death situation and it's the end of the world if this individual leaves me or is not here. I've always been this way around people I get attached too. I don't want to be left behind. I want to cry and I have cried. I don't know how to get this pain to go away. I just want to be happy yet I don't want to be abandoned by someone I love.
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