I don't know what to do
Here's my problem. I've become attached to a individual and it hurts when I'm not around this person. I feel like my life is at a life or death situation and it's the end of the world if this individual leaves me or is not here. I've always been this way around people I get attached too. I don't want to be left behind. I want to cry and I have cried. I don't know how to get this pain to go away. I just want to be happy yet I don't want to be abandoned by someone I love.
@Toniestuff
Hey there Toni! I feel like this fear of abandonment is one that many people struggle with when it comes to BPD. It can be really difficult to overcome, and it is a feeling many people can relate to. One way I've seen people deal with this is to make sure they have a support system around them. By that, I don't mean necessarily just people like friends and family, but also things around you that you have some attachment to. These could be hobbies or interests. Another thing that might help that I've also heard, is scheduling your time with the person you have become attached to. For example, if you become nervous after a few hours of not being around them, schedule time for yourself away from that person in longer and longer increments until it's something you become used to. It's important during that time you schedule that you remain occupied so that you do not overthink about abandonment. Please let me know how you feel about these suggestions or if you've tried them~ It's completely fine if you don't think these are for you, and, hopefully, someone else can give input about things they have heard or what works for them. I wish you all the best Toni in your recovery~ 💜
When it comes to hobbies I lost all interest in them. I want to get back into story writing, even at times I get bored and I stop writing. It's a on and off Light switch for me and I hate how I can never finish huge projects I'm passionate about because I lose interest. I fear of the abandonment since it's always 99% chance it's gonna happen, my brain automatically jumps to that conclusion and now I'm wondering when.
@Toniestuff Just as Lavender said, it can be very difficult always being preoccupied with one person and depending on them for your emotions. Losing interest in activities does happen. In general, it helps to stick to the activity anyway and cherish the parts you like. Either way, I wish you have a great day ahead. :)
Literally the same situation im in right now. Currently crying but it has to get better right? This fear of being alone has got to subside somehow.. I feel like im crazy. Sorry i don't have much advice but to offer that you're not alone and i felt every single word of this!