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amicableBlackberry7974
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Feeling the Weight: Job Search and Baby On the Way
Women's Issues / by amicableBlackberry7974
Last post
 June 8th, 2025
...See more Hi everyone, I wanted to share something that's been weighing heavily on me lately. With my baby due very soon, I'm feeling a lot of pressure, especially from family, about working. It seems like there's a perception that I don't want to work, but the truth is, I've been actively job searching for months without any success. It's been incredibly disheartening, and I'm wondering if it's my qualifications, or perhaps the fact that I don't drive and am really hoping for a remote role. Trying to find work with a baby on the way adds another layer of challenge. I deeply miss having my own income like I did back in my home country, and I'd love to find a way to balance being with my little one and also getting back into work. This whole situation has left me feeling quite emotional, and I've been crying a lot. It's tough feeling so dependent. I just want to regain my independence and contribute financially.
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Navigating Cultural Expectations and Personal Happiness: A Dilemma
Women's Issues / by amicableBlackberry7974
Last post
 June 6th, 2025
...See more I'm seeking advice on a very personal situation. I'm currently pregnant, and my partner is truly wonderful. He's been incredibly supportive throughout this pregnancy, ensuring all my needs are met and allowing me to prioritize my health. He's exceptionally attentive to both me and our baby, always anticipating what I need and making me happy. I honestly can't imagine myself with anyone else. However, I'm facing significant cultural and religious pressures. As a Christian, being pregnant outside of marriage goes against teachings, and back home, there's a strong likelihood of negative talk about me and my family. This pressure has led me to tell people that we are married, which isn't true. We've only been together for just over a year, and I suspect this might be why he hasn't committed to marriage yet, even with our baby's arrival imminent. While I feel conflicted about misleading people, I am genuinely happy with him. I'm 33 years old. Given these complex circumstances, how would you advise me to approach this situation?
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Sister's Life
Women's Issues / by amicableBlackberry7974
Last post
 April 1st, 2025
...See more My heart breaks for my sister. She's endured so much suffering. Since childhood, she's battled chronic ear infections, undergoing five surgeries, the most recent of which was unsuccessful and led to a tumor and debilitating headaches that doctors can't treat. The trauma she experienced as a child, when she was molested during a prayer session intended for her healing, resulted in severe emotional distress and a long-term mental health diagnosis. She's unable to work and relies on my mother for support, living in difficult circumstances. My mother's frustration often manifests as anger, which adds to the strain. It's incredibly painful to witness her constant suffering, and at times, I struggle with feelings of helplessness. I'm deeply concerned about her quality of life and want to find ways to support her and my mother through this.
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4 Months Pregnant
Parenting & Pregnancy / by amicableBlackberry7974
Last post
 May 29th, 2025
...See more My family is unhappy with me because I am pregnant without being married. But I'm very happy with my partner. He understands and looks after me so well even more after knowing my pregnancy. His family is also happy.
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Relationship Issue
Relationship Stress / by amicableBlackberry7974
Last post
 October 27th, 2024
...See more My boyfriend has a best friend, who is a single mom. They've been friends for over two years. I believe she is bisexual. It bothers me that they keep texting each other constantly. My boyfriend is strictly against me talking to another guy. Last night, her question to him about having hair from his knee up made me so angry. It's unfair that they can talk about anything and I can't even discuss something like football with someone else. When I confronted him about this, he got very angry and didn't talk to me for a while. I wasn't jealous, but I felt that if he could talk with other female friends, then I should be allowed to have conversations with my male friends as well.
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Early Pregnancy
Parenting & Pregnancy / by amicableBlackberry7974
Last post
 January 1st, 2025
...See more Hello, I'm six weeks pregnant, and I've just had my blood test. It showed an indication of thalassemia, which could potentially harm the baby. This trait can come from either me or my partner. We will have another blood test on Monday to confirm. I'm worried 😟
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Need Advice
Relationship Stress / by amicableBlackberry7974
Last post
 September 10th, 2024
...See more My boyfriend is always on social media, often on ***, and doesn't spend much time with me. He seems to care more about Netflix and social media than spending quality time with me. He works long hours from 4:30 - 6:30, and when he gets home, we usually just have a brief conversation because I'm also working. Then, we have dinner, take a shower, and go to sleep. 😴  am I wrong if I complain about him always on social media?
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New Life
Relationship Stress / by amicableBlackberry7974
Last post
 September 9th, 2024
...See more I recently moved in with my boyfriend, and I've been feeling like I've lost myself. I have no life; I used to go out frequently, but now I spend most of my days at home. I only have my boyfriend as a friend, and I don't know what to do or where to go in this area. Additionally, I can't drive, and I have no money since I quit my job, which has made it even more challenging to explore my surroundings. I depend on my boyfriend a lot, something I've never done before. This situation has caused me to become more grumpy towards my boyfriend, even though he's done his part to make me happy. I get angry easily and don't want that to continue. I need help.
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