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Hard Time
Relationship Stress / by amusingKitten2864
Last post
 August 22nd, 2021
...See more I love my best friend of 7 years. And he kinda loves me too but he doesn't want to date or anything yet as he just came out of a relationship and also isn't sure if we'll work out. As I can be really hard to deal with. I expect alot in terms of time and attention. And he's not the same. So he's afraid if we date he'll lose me forever. He is great when we are face to face, but text and call not so much. He's going away this weekend and it's getting really hard for me to deal with. I can't stop thinking about him :( and the things that he said about not being sure of dating him. After liking him for so many years I was hoping he'd be into me too...but hearing his negative throughts about this really has taken a toll on me. And to make things worse he's leaving this weekend ☹️ Usually after meeting him I'm fine. But now that he's going away idk how I'll deal with all the pain and overthinking.
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Help :( Can't figure out what to do about this guy I like who's also my best friend
Relationship Stress / by amusingKitten2864
Last post
 August 20th, 2021
...See more I like my best friend for over 4 years now. But couldn't do anything about it cz he was dating someone else. But i always knew he kinda liked me too. But he didn't do anything about it. He continued with his relationship anyway cz he felt guilty to break up + didn't want to lose me in cssee we date and it doesn't work out. This year I finally decided to take a step towards moving on. I joined an online dating app. When i started getting close to another guy & kinda of started liking him my best friend told me likes me but he never acted on it cz of the reasons mentioned above. And that he'll break up & date me. He broke up but he feels extremely guilty about whatever he did. And after break up he asked me if we can take it slow and to give him sometime to figure & accept all these things. But i kinda of continually asked him whether he wants to date me, does he still like me. Which annoyed him cz he was already stressed after breaking up and about moving to New city for his job, leaving behind me, his family, friends etc.. Now he says he still needs more time to think whether we should date or no.. cz of long distance, our fights, plus the possibility of losing me forever.. he said he rn with current circumstances he doesn't feel it's the right time to get into a relationship and we can take some days to think and see how things go.. I have told him I can't wait for too long.. he said he understands and if it's becoming difficult for me I can give up.. but he genuinely cares for me.... Do you guys think this is toxic? I have clearly told him I'll give sometime but when it reaches a stage that I can't deal with waiting bit anymore I'll give up and move away.. he said he understands and I should do what's best for me.. I might have missed the points but he's the one who has always been there for me in the past.. he has always taken care of me when I'm sad... Do you guys have any advice? Do you guys think he's toxic? I don't feel he is cz I know he actually is going through stuff and really cares for me & loves me.. but idk just doesn't want to date for now
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Complicated Relationship & bad mistakes
Relationship Stress / by amusingKitten2864
Last post
 September 21st, 2021
...See more Hello I am here to share about some things I have done which I'm not proud of. I cheated on a guy who I was dating with another guy who was also in a relationship. Me and the guy I cheated with started as close friends. We really didn't have intention or idea that our relationship would go this way but along the way we really started to care for each other and developed feelings. But never did anything about it because we thought we'll be doing wrong to our partners by breaking up and thought we had it under control. And we would try controlling our feelings everytime but sometimes we'd cross our boundary. After the incidents we'd feel guilty about what happened and decide never to repeat these mistakes. This happened a few times but we didn't have guts to come out with the truth. And we always believed we would never repeat it again. Now finally we both have decided to end it with other partners and start dating each other. Cause we both realised whatever was going on was unhealthy and toxic. But I still feel extremely guilty about cheating. Now I realise that telling our partners the truth that time itself would be the right thing to do. But we fucked up big time. Are we horrible people for this? Or good people who happened to do very bad things? You can give your opinions just not very harsh opinion would be appreciated. Or word of advice too.
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