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I'm struggling to see the light in my marriage
Relationship Stress / by aquaSugar3353
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 March 22nd, 2021
...See more Hi guys It's my first post here and I'm wondering if anyone else is experiencing or has experienced something similar to me? I've been married to my wife for 5 years and we adopted our first child last year. I've always loved my wife and I think I always will. Up until recently I've always seen our relationship as a positive one but recently I've been struggling to find the love and connection that we had before. I've had issues with depression and anxiety for most of my adult life and the severity of my difficulties come and go and usually my wife is able to empathise and help, but this time is different. The other day she said "I feel like you're a black hole at the minute and I want to keep you at arms length". I don't think she realised how much of a blow this was to me. She says that she cares and I kind of believe her, I dunno. Every time I share my feelings, I feel like she's desperate to get out of the conversation and will offer a solution or something I should do to feel better as soon as possible without ACTUALLY listening to me. Slowly, I'm finding myself looking at her and finding it hard to feel anything other than hate from her. She says that she loves me and that nothing has changed but I think that mutual resentment is the strongest emotion between us. We both adore our son who we adopted last year and are doing everything in our power to make sure that no issues we are experiencing affect him and I guess in a way we are putting all of what we have into him and there's nothing left for each other. On a sexual note, while I've been struggling emotionally I've been hornier than ever but not for her. I'll turn down sex or intimacy with her and then lie in bed waiting for her to fall asleep and masterbate to porn. Thanks for reading 💖
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