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brightLion87
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Relationship Stress / by brightLion87
Last post
 July 6th, 2025
...See more CW - oral sex discussed  My partner loves giving oral, and will go down on me every chance he gets (even when I just get home from work and I'm not at my peak of freshness). The issue is I don't reciprocate in the same way. For one I don't really like doing it, but I want to please my partner. The other part of that is that I'm self conscious about it because I don't know if I'm doing it right and I get in my head about it and get performance anxiety. He says I'm doing good but I sometimes wonder if he's just saying because some head is better than none. Any advice is welcomed.
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Relationship Stress / by brightLion87
Last post
 July 9th, 2025
...See more So the guy (43), I (F 38) have been dating since November doesnt clean as frequently as I do. His apartment (while not filthy) is definitely not up to my standard of clean. He recently asked me to help him clean, while he would have been ok paying to have it cleaned, he said he would rather pay me half of what he was quoted to have my assistance in cleaning. Honestly, I would help him for free. I spend a few days there a week and usually when I'm there he makes sure I'm comfortable, cooks for me, serves me, cleans up (sometimes I'll do the dishes, and I clean up after myself and make the bed etc.) and doesn't really ask me to do anything. Would you be ok helping him clean under these circumstances? I just don't want to be doing too much too soon.
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Ghosted again
35 & Over Community / by brightLion87
Last post
 January 23rd, 2023
...See more So I was ghosted by someone who I thought was a decent person. We dated from Jan to Aug then they stared to be distant in speyember and full on ghosted me Oct. No explanation nothing. There was no big blow out fight or anything. Just a conversation about how communication has been. I'm hurt and confused.
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Self Sabotaged Again
Relationship Stress / by brightLion87
Last post
 March 11th, 2021
...See more I totally messed up somethibg that had the potential to bw great by second guessing and overthing. How do I break the cycle?
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