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charmingWillow3928
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I need help from fellow non-sexual people
Relationship Stress / by charmingWillow3928
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 June 19th, 2021
...See more I am not a very sexual person and it’s becoming a huge issue in my relationship. I really always thought of sexual things as purely physical and that’s it, nothing deeper. It wasn’t until recently that I learned that it is something way deeper. I’ve been with him for 6 years and we’re still both virgins and I feel awful everyday about it. I know that if I don’t give him this side of me then he will leave me and I don’t want that. For the non-sexual people out there with a sexual partner, how are you making it work between you? I need a lot of help and advice for this situation.
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Scared of Sex and Deeper Intimacy
Relationship Stress / by charmingWillow3928
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 April 29th, 2021
...See more My boyfriend and I have been together for six years now and we still have not had sex. I am ashamed to say this, but it’s the truth. I do love him and find him very attractive, but I am scared for some reason. I feel like I’m scared of getting too close, even though that’s what he wants and I want it too, because I feel I might get hurt in the end. Being together with him for six years with still no sex, and me continuing to mess up and not open up to him and he’s still around must mean something right? I also think it’s because of a lack of confidence in myself, but I don’t want to tell him I’m scared of growing deeper together because I’m afraid he’ll leave me because that’ll make it seem like I don’t trust him or his intentions, which I do. I just need validation sometimes too because of my anxiety. How do I get over my fear of intimacy and how am I able to learn more self-confidence and love?
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Advice for Lack of Communication/ Fear of Intimacy
Relationship Stress / by charmingWillow3928
Last post
 March 4th, 2021
...See more I have been together with my boyfriend for about 6 years now. I haven’t had sex with him yet and I think it’s because I’m scared to get intimate and I don’t know why, but that’s one of the things besides communication that our relationship is lacking and I don’t know what to do. I don’t open up and to my family much about personal issues either and sometimes I feel like I don’t know what love truly is. But then I think this guy must be in my life for a reason because he keeps coming back even when I mess up. I guess I just really need help opening myself up to him more and taking this relationship to the next step which has been needed for a while. I feel like I need to retrain my brain so if anybody has any resources that would help me, if you could share them I’d greatly appreciate it.
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