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cheescaakes
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I was on NMy LDR ex BF of 4.5y who broke up with me a month ago called me yesterday and I’m starting to accept that everything is for the best.
Relationship Stress / by cheescaakes
Last post
 March 1st, 2021
...See more I was on NC for 2 weeks now but I felt vulnerable and lonely because it’s Valentine’s day. I answered his call. We talked for 20 minutes. We were supposed to move in together on October later this year but he felt like it’s a huge responsibility he cannot take yet. I was scared to move in too because I don’t their language and I can’t have a career there if I don’t know his language. We’re 22M (Russian) and 23F (Filipino). He asked me how’s my moving to Canada application going on. He told me he’s very curious about it. He was happy to hear that I’m finally following my dreams instead of using the money to go to Russia and moving for love then become unhappy because I couldn’t be who I wanted to be. I asked him if he wants to come with me but he said no, he can’t because he has other plans for his life now. Maybe in the far future. He told me that he now plans to work and study in his country and doesn’t plan to leave anytime soon. He wants to travel with his mom on February, probably to the Philippines because he wants to show his mom how beautiful it is here, or to other Asian countries. I asked him, what if you find someone else and date someone else here? (One of his reasons why he broke up with me was because our cultures were too different) He told me doesn’t plan to date anyone right now, he needs to fix his life and get his priorities straight. I’m starting to be in peace with our break up. I am slowly accepting that maybe this is really for the best so we can grow and reach our best potential. It’s just sad that we can’t be together anymore while building ourselves up but I’m quite hopeful that we can reconnect in the future when we’re both successful in life already. I felt calm and no more hatred when we spoke last night. I love him and he loves me too. But I now understand that we have to separate in order to grow.
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I was on NC. My LDR ex BF of 4.5y who broke up with me a month ago called me yesterday and I’m starting to accept that everything is for the best.
Relationship Stress / by cheescaakes
Last post
 February 14th, 2021
...See more I was on NC for 2 weeks now but I felt vulnerable and lonely because it’s Valentine’s day. I answered his call. We talked for 20 minutes. We were supposed to move in together on October later this year but he felt like it’s a huge responsibility he cannot take yet. I was scared to move in too because I don’t their language and I can’t have a career there if I don’t know his language. We’re 22M (Russian) and 23F (Filipino). He asked me how’s my moving to Canada application going on. He told me he’s very curious about it. He was happy to hear that I’m finally following my dreams instead of using the money to go to Russia and moving for love then become unhappy because I couldn’t be who I wanted to be. I asked him if he wants to come with me but he said no, he can’t because he has other plans for his life now. Maybe in the far future. He told me that he now plans to work and study in his country and doesn’t plan to leave anytime soon. He wants to travel with his mom on February, probably to the Philippines because he wants to show his mom how beautiful it is here, or to other Asian countries. I asked him, what if you find someone else and date someone else here? (One of his reasons why he broke up with me was because our cultures were too different) He told me doesn’t plan to date anyone right now, he needs to fix his life and get his priorities straight. I’m starting to be in peace with our break up. I am slowly accepting that maybe this is really for the best so we can grow and reach our best potential. It’s just sad that we can’t be together anymore while building ourselves up but I’m quite hopeful that we can reconnect in the future when we’re both successful in life already. I felt calm and no more hatred when we spoke last night. I love him and he loves me too. But I now understand that we have to separate in order to grow.
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I miss him again
Relationship Stress / by cheescaakes
Last post
 February 4th, 2021
...See more He haven’t called me in a week and i miss him
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My (23f) LDR boyfriend (22m) of 5 years just broke up with me and now I feel so lost and alone. I am still hoping he’ll come back.
Relationship Stress / by cheescaakes
Last post
 February 7th, 2021
...See more My (23f) LDR boyfriend (22m) of 5 years just broke up with me and now I feel so lost and alone. I am still hoping he’ll come back. Everything was going fine, we were planning to close the distance from Russia to Philippines already at the end of the year. The last time we met was summer of 2019. He’s currently serving in the army for a year and will come out October 2021. Earlier this week we were planning for our marriage. We were planning how to decorate our apartment. We were planning about visas for a year so we can start living together. Then suddenly he told me two nights ago that he wants to break up again because it’s been so tiring to plan for everything. He got overwhelmed. He tried to break up with me 3 times over the last year but I always pleaded him to reconsider and try to make things work. And he did. It’s just that two nights ago was the last straw. He cried a lot begging me to let him go because he’s not happy anymore. He’s currently going through life where he just graduated university, serving in military and still unemployed. He was being crushed under pressure of trying to fit me in all of his future plans. He told me that he can’t even see me in his future anymore no matter how much he tried. We broke up on a good note. We both made it clear that we still love each other but he’s not ready to take our relationship on another level or to even stay. He wants to discover himself first. He doesn’t want to be in any relationship right now, he told me not to wait for him anymore. I don’t know what to do anymore because in the last 5 years I was so sure that he’s gonna be the guy I’m marrying. I literally changed my goals and aspirations to be with him. I feel so mad and lost. I feel like I was left hanging.
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