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communicativePond1728
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PathStep 227 Compassion hearts10,835 Forum posts900 Forum upvotes1,222 Current upvotes1,222 Age GroupAdult Last activeApril, 2024 Member sinceNovember 10, 2023
Bio

Some things I like to do for fun is dance, play guitar and weave. 

One of my favourite games is monopoly pinball.

I'd like to overcome suffering.

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Boundaries-ens
35 & Over Community / by communicativePond1728
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 1 day ago
...See more Are you struggling for some reason with boundaries? CREATING BOUNDARIES: Be assertive, learn to say no, safeguard your spaces and get support. DEFINING BOUNDARIES: Think "What are your rights?". Follow your gut. Determine your values. BENEFITING FROM BOUNDARIES: Better self-esteem, conserving of emotional energy, more independence and agency. Pick a number between one and 19 or choose an option below to explore with the boundaries guide. * Negativity * Dishonesty * A bad job * Abusive relationships * Stonewalling * Abuse * Disrespect * Infidelity * Debt * Dismissal of feelings * Disparaging remarks about your potential * Disrespectful behavior * Emotional manipulation * Gaslighting * Inaction * Lies * Poor hygiene * Triangulation * Violation of personal boundaries Share any insights, takeaways or anything else below.
Nay-gativity
35 & Over Community / by communicativePond1728
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more If someone is exposed to negativity or constant criticism early on in their lives, they may mirror that behavior. Children raised in an environment where criticism, pessimism, doom and gloom, and negativity are common will end up having that mapped into their developing brains as typical behavior. Here's what you can do to deal with the negative people in your life without losing your mind: Hold back from casting judgment. ... Set firm boundaries. ... Respond, not react. ... Don't take things personally. ... Try to disarm their negativity. ... Accept this person for who they are. ... Find bright spots of positivity in your life. Prompts to consider  1. What's an example or examples of a time you prevented yourself from flying over the cuckoo's nest? 2. Are there things you're going to work on or working on to increase your health, wealth and happiness? What? 3. All ice cream is snared by aliens and you can eat one flavour forevermore...which one do you decide on?
Reparenting
Parenting & Pregnancy / by communicativePond1728
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 2 days ago
...See more Hey ⭐ Love to hear some kind examples from when you reparented yourself and how it helped or changed a situation to a more safe and calm situation, allowing accomplishment and what you want. ✨ 
The Sound of Silence
General Support / by communicativePond1728
Last post
 April 19th
...See more I pull cards sometimes to find my bearings and yesterday the rabbit came out to play. It spoke of fears and doubts. How when they're paid too much attention to, they overtake all. A day of silence was recommended. After some mental preparation I note the hour and begin.   The frantic rabbit pops up once and a while. I go back to the turtle. Over and over. Goals and affirmations, helpful videos and positive people surround me in a warm breeze. Heatstroke begins to fade, the cramps from rotten salad eaten in haste slowly subside. For every illness a cure. Every mistake a lesson. A silver lining in every thundering cloud. I weave gossamer threads into a cloak I whirl around me in the dance forward and back.
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35 & Over Community / by communicativePond1728
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 April 6th
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Wordless
Young People of Color / by communicativePond1728
Last post
 April 22nd
...See more Hey, how's it going. There's times I realize how disappointing the  world is even though I try to be positive and optimistic and at times see so much beauty and am so grateful to be alive. It's rough that everyone has an opinion and some are doing so much better than others out of unfair advantage and life forces me to negotiate my needs instead of meeting them. Being a septuple minority is hard enough without having to always be worrying or thinking about whether or not I'll be attacked or assaulted just for wanting shelter or food. So often I don't want to continue even though I've worked hard and accomplished a lot in my life. It hasn't paid off and is a struggle just to belong on a most minute level. I'm tired of being told I'm strong or courageous or wise because I don't want that burden. I want what I can't explain, good luck and access to opportunities I'll probably never get. Trying to see things from the perspective of people who are much more well off then me is a challenging task. I work at that daily and at many other things. It's exhausting.  It's hard to balance everything in my life when there's so much that needs to be improved in the world and so much ignorance. I can't even keep up with chores. Life is terrible and great.
Shout-out!
Positivity & Gratitude / by communicativePond1728
Last post
 April 3rd
...See more @Sunisshiningandsoareyou @KatieTheBigRockOne @DaisyDaph @blindheart12 @lumieremilkyway @Gozzil @alphav7 @HeythereletsChat024 @Destiny00 @DonaldDraper @Starmedia I just finished the growth path you all contributed to! It was really good and I appreciate that because it's helping and helped me so much. Also, if anyone is wondering what growth path to do, I highly recommend this one eh?
BLOON
Poetry / by communicativePond1728
Last post
 April 5th
...See more BLOON: to fade or discolour  There were no excuses left. So I went to the beach today. About 15 minutes in tears started steaming down. Nature unearths healing with its brash, unapologetic wildness, burrowing deeper than flesh, blood and bone into primal more, knitting me back together with grandmother hands. On the walk home I break into a run, joints aching from misuse. Bemused and wondering if I'm hallucinating, a black balloon swims into focus hovering near some bushes, 1/3 empty of helium. I pick up it's string and pull it, bobbing, along: My little black pet cloud; my dark imperfections out for all to see. It now sits gently against the ceiling at my home's entrance, greeting all with a rubbery hello. A reminder of darkness as celebration.  Later on, the party that never started is over. I'm dehydrated, hungry, swaddled in sensory neglect. My hair hangs in oily, broken streamers. I send little expeditions into myself, seeking motivation and discipline. Digging at the dirt under my nails, scraping my tongue across the grime on my teeth, brushing stringy hair in an attempt at beauty and only finding mirrored back the remains of that which died long ago. My momentum is set to comfort in disgust. My dishes, long dirty smell of a broken hearted flatline. I weave down the hall, detached, drunk with zombie thoughts. The balloon startles me again...this time it's now just under eye height, a sort of butler *** spectre. It has despair, black holes and uncertainty on a platter. Cracked concrete courtesy. I spend some time falsely practicing at being helpful, volunteering, sacrificing the last few glints of moisture in my cup to whatever godless gods might be thirsty. I drag myself to shower, do some laundry, dishes and eat something more than just sugary blobs. Everything I do is just to avoid something else. Reeling back to the big room, a fish caught by fate, my attention is suddenly snared by the balloon and shocks me: It lolls on the floor, alive in my erratic, electric wake like a decapitated shadow, a Frankenstein's head of my flaws. "I know I can't escape you forever", I whisper to the void. Something comes echoing back, but it's gone before I can make it out; a dream left hovering on the quivering meniscus of remembrance.   The balloon is now gone. Carried out in numb ceremony with a load of trash. The absence jars me more then its unpredictable, dark and planetary forehead. Somberly I seek SH solace knowing it doesn't make a dent in the house-sized boulder resting on me. Popping under the pressure of society, squeaking in agony beneath the towering weight of the ficklest ambition, I wonder once again why what once filled me so completely now flickers on and off like the last star at dawn. To attend trial every day and am found guilty, led away, caged and sentenced to watch the last hope fade forever behind bars. I jail myself and swallow the key. I ignore my screams. I ignore my needs. Only I can free me. There were no excuses left.
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