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crimsonEyes1140
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Cross roads ahead v2
Relationship Stress / by crimsonEyes1140
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 March 12th, 2021
...See more So.. My wife and I are having a rough time lately. We have been married now for 3 years together for 5. She is from America and I'm.l English both late 30s. We used to be so close talk kiss hug make love (most days), be all around attracted to each other. Yes we argued what couple doesn't but we always made up (usually me saying sorry first). But the past year has been rough we've had sex 3 times in a year, she doesn't want me to touch her in bed as she says I'm always horny. (she's not wrong but I control myself). We don't speak really now and I try to make conversations but they fall on deaths door. She doesn't really like to be around me as she now says I'm over bearing and controlling.( I do admit I do try to help in anyway I can, I can see if it's over bearing there) But she always said she wants someone to provide for her take care and do things for her. I work all week, cook clean about nearly everything that needs doing I do. She doesn't work or do any house work. When she does I'm so grateful as it saves me doing it. And I let her know it. Everyday I call her beautiful, tell her I love her I try to make moves on her but nothing. Especially recently I can't do anything without her being annoyed with me. She calls me an ass hole everyday pretty much. I apologise most days feel like crap, falling deeper inside myself I don't know what to do. Well today our new puppy peed on the sofa and she was cleaning it up. I asked does she need a hand and she flipped she called me an asshole, said she hates the way I speak it irritates her. How I pronounce words she hates them. She walks off I apologise as I do, but nothing every day I'm feeling lower and lower. I love this women but she hurts me so much. I've been in a hurtful relationship before I know how it feels. Today has been a low tho as I've been showing my emotions in my face and I can see her rolling her eyes pissed at me. I'm so lost. I couldn't sleep tonight so I decided to let her sleep and I'd get up and buy her some birthday presents. She wakes up and comes and sees me on the pc and says are you kidding me. Pissed off at me I tell her I can't sleep I've got things on my mind and she says stop being so moppy and emotional. She goes back to bed and tells me to sleep on the sofa. What am I meant to do? Act like a man and be an asshole? Be emotional and get walked on? I'm so lost. She's always wanted a man to show his emotions so I Do and she gets angry at the slightest thing. Or do I go into my shell and keep things from her but get called a liar when I don't tell her I'm feeling down. (she does this alot)
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Cross roads and there's a crash both ways
Relationship Stress / by crimsonEyes1140
Last post
 March 12th, 2021
...See more I know this feeling my wife and I used to have sex multiple times a day. Now nothing for a year (apart from once in the shower). She doesnt work. I clean cook DIY everything. We are only 30 and 28 married 3 years. Yet I show her all the affection and love but when I'm sad she says 'oh here it goes'... Makes me feel real good seeing my wife belittle me. Then she says I'm the one at fault because all I care about is sex and hugs and kisses... Nope I Just want affection and a kiss sometimes. I've even told he all this but it doesn't matter. Great life ahead of me by the sound of it.. I really feel for us men and women struggling with this.
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