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dcromer3
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PathStep 5 Compassion hearts33 Forum posts28 Forum upvotes21 Current upvotes21 Age GroupAdult Last activeFebruary, 2023 Member sinceSeptember 8, 2022
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Body Count and Finding Your Worth
Relationship Stress / by dcromer3
Last post
 January 23rd, 2023
...See more Hey fam, so my girlfriend and I are in a fairly healthy relationship for the most part. We have our ups and downs as everyone should. I’m her rock and she is my joy. Sexually things have also had their ups and downs as well. We had a bit of a dry spell and then out of nowhere we have been on each other like crazy! It’s been fantastic. However, I struggle with certain things that I’m assuming are insecurities but I need some words of wisdom if anyone can help. So me (26) have quite a large body count that I’m not necessarily proud of but I can’t change it. My gf (24) also has a large body count. I don’t really care about it, but there are people prior to me that still are in her life daily given the community we live and work in. It has me feeling some type of way at times bc they are still her “friends”. She takes a little bit of issue with this, but I know certainly if it were reversed she’d be feeling the same. She tells me she loves the sex we have and vice versa, but I get in my head when I have to consistently see these people. It throws me off my game heavily and I become uncertain of myself in the bedroom. There are days where it doesn’t bother me, but some days it completely ruins my mentality and I feel inadequate or I’m not actually satisfying her. how should I overcome this as I assume I’m not the only person who suffers from this?
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Is she distancing herself?
Relationship Stress / by dcromer3
Last post
 January 15th, 2023
...See more Hey, so my girlfriend and I have been together for 6 months (almost 7 unofficially). Things at the beginning were picture perfect, almost textbook for how most relationships start. We get to about the 3 or 4 month mark and she texts me much less. Now mind you, her job doesn’t really allow for her to text as much so I get that…I got over it. However, as of recently, the texting has gotten to a minimum and I feel like my needs aren’t being met. I always reach out first, always text her last, my needs such as affirmation every now and then, communication, planning things for us, and physical touch and sex seem to becoming more scarce. It’s eating me up. I’ve mentioned it (maybe not as directly as I should) but I have mentioned it. I’m consistently planning dates and doing things (probably too much), I am always going out of my way to make sure she feels loved, but it’s rarely reciprocated at least for what I need. She also has been starting a lot of fights and getting mad and angry at me over small things. Part of this I think she can’t help, but when she does I talk to her and hear her out but finally the other day out my foot down in it’s not cool with me when she uses me like a punching bag. In person, she’s very loving, very compassionate, and loves me being there it seems. She always says she loves me, and when I am not there she FaceTimes me every night to talk. However, I’ve been trying to get her to open up to me more, talk to me deeper, and yes we haven’t had sex in about 3 weeks (medical related issues)…I can get past that if she would try to meet my emotional needs more. I am struggling with how to properly bring it up again, and I’m also struggling with understanding if she’s backing away. If she is, I’d love to know how to resolve it.
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Explaining my needs
Relationship Stress / by dcromer3
Last post
 October 28th, 2022
...See more How do I explain what I need from my girlfriend to her without coming off like an ***. She’s kind of sensitive and I don’t want to offend or upset her. I also don’t know how to respond if she gives me a list of reasons of things she does. Pls help. I feel like an option to her sometimes
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How to cope w things you’ve struggled w in the past
Relationship Stress / by dcromer3
Last post
 October 21st, 2022
...See more Hey guy, my girlfriend and I have been doing well. However, I think she sees too much of me to be excited anymore. Like I really try to give her her personal space and let her do her thing. I’ve never stopped her from doing what she’s wanted to. She still talks about plans for us in the future…a house, kids, trips etc. however, last night she told me that it annoys her that I get mad when she doesn’t respond to me. Now, I did at first and yes it occasionally still bothers me, but I have tried really hard not to bring it up. My love language if you will is communication and always wanting to talk to her. She isn’t like that, and will not reply for hours at a time. She still gets on social media and stuff in between and it’s fine. I just sometimes wish I felt like a priority. I told her when she brought it up that I’ve tried not to say anything and that I’ve been improving or so I thought. She said, “we are so close I don’t feel like I need to talk to you all the time…I literally love you.” And has also stated last week how no matter how crazy or out of the box she acts sometimes she knows I still accept her and love her. Even called me her best friend and her friend before her boyfriend. It made me feel great hearing that because I would go to whatever lengths for this woman. how and where do I go from here and how to handle it. I think she thinks I am needy and annoying at times. She always apologizes for saying the things but it’s clear I’m overwhelming her at times. pls help
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I love you
Relationship Stress / by dcromer3
Last post
 October 15th, 2022
...See more Hey guys, just out of curiosity…my girlfriend kind of gave me the hint she needed some space in terms of just having her own personal time. She hasn’t vocalized it until today, and said she wanted a me night. Then changed her mind and told me to stay and she can have it tomorrow and me be back Saturday. She’s not really as excited to see me or only seems to when it’s about plans that she’s excited for, she hugs me when she wants to, has been in a bit of a mood as of lately, and only really wants to talk when she wants to talk. She tells me she loves me but doesn’t say it as much as she used to and for me it’s just concerning. Is it normal at about the 4 month mark to have this typical response from your girlfriend? I put in a lot of effort all the time to let her know she is loved and she according to her friends has said that I’m the guy she is going to marry. Literally just a few days ago. I love that she talks about me like this, but how do I get her to talk to me like this? I know I need to communicate it, but I’m genuinely nervous to do so because I don’t know how to even start that convo when I can tell she’s been a little more distant. Please help
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When to give space?
Relationship Stress / by dcromer3
Last post
 October 3rd, 2022
...See more What are signs your significant other needs space from you?
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Distance or no distance?
Relationship Stress / by dcromer3
Last post
 October 4th, 2022
...See more So my girlfriend and I are doing swimmingly! However, I feel like she’s sees me so much to the point that she isn’t really excited to see me, I frustrate her more than I don’t, and she’s been a little distant in texts and person…Not in a bad way at all, but I feel like she was always so happy to see me and would get excited. But for example, every night when we are apart she FaceTimes me. I didn’t get the call, and I know she had a really busy night and it was hectic…however, it felt a lil off! But yesterday I told her I wasn’t going to come see her at work (my fav restaurant so she can have a break from me)…she told me to come in. Well I did and she wasn’t in the best mood and I wasn’t trying to get in her way or distract her, but she always comes up hugs me, holds my hand across the bar, and is excited to see me. I asked if she was okay and she said yeah but she can’t do that bc she’s at work (mind you it’s never stopped her before). fast forward, I told her I didn’t really plan on coming in and felt bad a little bc I wanted to give her her space. She told me I was gonna make her mad. But then told me why she was really upset. Not to do with me…Again, fast forward, but they were getting demolished at the bar and I went and got her and her coworker a gift to cheer them up bc the energy in the building was off with everyone. They asked me not to leave, but I had errands to run, but came back with the gifts. Prior to that, I messaged her asking her if she wanted me to come back or not and the option was hers… well I ended up just coming back to give them their gifts. She came around and gave me a big hug and kissed my cheek. Then asked if I was going to stay the night or if that text was more so meant to just stay til they close. She said she didn’t care either way, and her coworker was like “stay, stay, stay the night”! So I asked her and she was like I gave you my answer so it’s up to you. I did…after work, we went out to the bar next to her work and she told me to swap places with somebody and try and have a good time and go have fun (as if I don’t typically). And I didn’t think much into it but she wasn’t really overly conversive with me there, except she got up to give me a huge hug and kiss on the cheek to say that she loved her gift and loved on me just a little. So we end up getting home to her place and she was fine really. Just very talkative and was trying to do what she normally does, we ended up doing the deed, and watched a movie and had a late night snack….this morning she hugged me and kissed me several times, but seemed very tired! As to be expected. I told her I’d see her like Tuesday or Wednesday of next week and she was like “wait you’re not coming over tomorrow??” And I told her I wasn’t going to make her go to my bands practice and I could just chill at home for a lil bit. But she seemed shocked that I said I wasn’t coming over. So my question is do I give her space?? I feel like I’m overthinking but also feel like I’m overwhelming her, so what do you guys think I should do?? It’s been 2 years since I dated someone before her, and I’m just anxious bc that relationship didn’t end well at all and left me empty. I don’t want that to be the case this time…I really love this woman
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