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decisiveWheel1659
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How to deal with loneliness after breakup?
Relationship Stress / by decisiveWheel1659
Last post
 May 4th
...See more My ex left me for someone else, while we were in a relationship, it broke my heart into pieces , she was there of only what i provided but the cruelty of just leaving , for someone else and cheating on me , i did everything for her, supported her, loved her, validated her, was there for her in need, and what she does is to compare to me all the time to someone else, the guy who she's with right now, just comparing , insulting, and i don't know why I stayed, cause I really loved her deeply, but what she has done has left me a big void in my heart and it has left me with nothing but loneliness. I just need people here, I beg to ask what should i do deal with loneliness.
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I can't let her go, lost my motivation
Relationship Stress / by decisiveWheel1659
Last post
 May 8th
...See more no matter how much I try I just can't let go, 4 years and everything, her being with someone else, cheated on me, I was so faithful for her, cared for her, loved her, did everything for her, but cheating while with me is fcuking hard to swallow. For 3 months and then left out of nowhere, no closure, no nothing, she didn't even said what was wrong with me, she just packed up and left. I don't know what to do, i thought she was the one, I wanted to marry her, wanted to give her everything but she just left for a different guy such a shallow way to decide 4 years of sh*t, shove it in garbage. I was so good in everything, topper of class, academically excellent, was on the path to my research career, and now it's just like..... ? where , what am I, i can't focus on anything, everytime it's just this thing about the unfaithful, the her being with someone else, sharing what I had with someone else, sleeping with someone else, i just can't think straight, forget about my research career!! i know I'm just emotionally driven right now so I'm not thinking straight, obviously I want to pursue my research, and career it's just i don't have any motivation to do anything really. I just sit at my home and sleep and do nothing, and I'm never been this guy who I am right now, so it's even more hard to even accept. I was committed, she wasn't that's all. But I never loved a women so much than her, I don't know when and where would I find someone else. I'm not in a hurry , and I'm not trying to do this to replace her , to replace the pain it's just I don't know. it *** hurts. im just numbed, all day, doing nothing, just lying on bed, doing nothing, I have loads of work to do and I know that ,but deliberately ignore it, because I just can't , just can't do it. That *** my mind even more, I have taken too much leave on the job, even thought of considering to leave the job and totally focus on going to mba or research, can't decide, just sit at home , do nothing, haven't showered for 2 days, I'm wreck, i can't do anything. Can anyone help please , i can't let her go? im angry and why the *** I'm still hoping?? Hoping of what exactly, and that hurts even more cause I'm still asking something from someone that I won't get .
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How to move forward from what you have with them?
Relationship Stress / by decisiveWheel1659
Last post
 April 27th
...See more I can't take things like this, it's fcuking my brain out. I was in a relationship with her for 4 years, she left me out of nowhere, and left me for someone else. It has wrecked my heart into pieces, cause i thought she was the one. I did everything for her, was there for her in her darkest of times, and she just leaves me like that. I was really good in my studies , I was class topper of my college batch,I was doing really fine after i fell in love with her. I didn't know how can someone leave 4 years of sh*t we went through together, that involves everything sexually, physically, mentally, emotionally , everything. And now i lost everything it feels like it. I lost momentum, i lost confidence, i lost relationship, love, job , and now I'm behind in career it feels like seeing my peers moving forward and they don't have to deal with what I went through for the last 9 months. And yes I'm ready to leave all that behind, but here's what *** me up , everytime I'm focusing, her thought comes in my mind with someone else. And nights are the worst ( you know what i mean),it was 4 years not 4 months that i can just switch off things about her, I'm not being possessive but it's like i had things with her in everyway possible and now she can just easily give it to someone else, can easily cheat on me. I'm really angry, sad, and i don't what am I at this point H*ll i didn't approached other womens when i was with her, not even as a friend, because i respected her, loved her too much . Too much can be harmful. Please help me with these feelings of her with someone else, i beg you to help me stop this, the withdrawals and imagination, no matter I try to stop it doesn't and it's pure agony sitting right there on my chest!?
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It's hard knowing she doesn't care anything
Relationship Stress / by decisiveWheel1659
Last post
 April 25th
...See more I had a injury in my hand, she didn't care anything at all, like i don't exist, first of all she cheats on me and then doesn't even care about me . Like i am nothing. I reached out to her I don't know why, maybe I'm out of my mind reaching to a women like that, but I don't know why i reached her and she didn't even cared. It hurts even more , I'm fcuking stupid.
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Im wrecked
Relationship Stress / by decisiveWheel1659
Last post
 April 21st
...See more she cheated on me, and I found out that yesterday, i knew something was off , but i loved her, did everything for her, inwas there for her in darkest of her places and now she found someone who probably is better looking than me and is more rich , and now I feel like a total fool giving my heart to someone . *** when I was with her i didn't even saw other women cause i respected her and loved her too much. sometimes loving too much is harmfull, at least that's what I'm seeing right now. I was really great in my studies, I was a topper of my class , and was great in everything until I met her , and now it's all fcked up, failed in 3 exams consecutively and wasted a whole damn year on nothing , just nothing. for someone like me , and the way i have been all my life, being a high achiever sort of thing it's like unbelievable to just exist. please help me
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Im a wreck
Relationship Stress / by decisiveWheel1659
Last post
 April 25th
...See more she cheated on me, and I found out that yesterday, i knew something was off , but i loved her, did everything for her, inwas there for her in darkest of her places and now she found someone who probably is better looking than me and is more rich , and now I feel like a total fool giving my heart to someone . *** when I was with her i didn't even saw other women cause i respected her and loved her too much. sometimes loving too much is harmfull, at least that's what I'm seeing right now. I was really great in my studies, I was a topper of my class , and was great in everything until I met her , and now it's all fcked up, failed in 3 exams consecutively and wasted a whole damn year on nothing , just nothing. for someone like me , and the way i have been all my life, being a high achiever sort of thing it's like unbelievable to just exist. please help me
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