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Need advice please 😔
Grief & Loss / by demonvok
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 October 9th, 2025
...See more Hi all,ill keep this as short as I can. For context im a M23 dating a F20. We have been talking for about 38 days when she got the tragic news her grandma wouldn't make the week. 😢 On our first date she had asked me if when this happened if it was okay to take some space,ofc I told yes absolutely. Today I had asked her if checking in every few days or daily which would be most helpful,and understandable she said she didn't know what would be helpful. I know I can't change the pain,or hurt and overwhelm shes feeling and will feel for months to come,as much as I want to just take it away,I know grief must run it's course. My question is how can I support her from a distance? Im afraid I'll mess up by not being supportive enough or give too much space. I have made her a promise way back that I wanted all of her,the good,the bad,the happy times and the sad times. I can't quit on her,but I desperately need advice on how I can support her while giving space. Because a good part of me wants to reach out everyday,or visit her and listen or just sit in silence,but I know I cant do that. Im afraid if I dont do so she'll see it as no support.Im considering bringing and leaving by her house a small bouquet of flowers and her favorite soup towards next month because i know grief will be so much harder after the funeral. I know I keep going in circles but ive never experienced grief much less dated someone who just had a terrible loss. I am still working and living life as normally as one can be,but at night when im in bed everything comes crashing in. I feel terrible im making this about me when shes the one going through the real grief of losing someone so close to her
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Feeling confused after a great first date — need advice on what’s normal
Anxiety Support / by demonvok
Last post
 July 14th, 2025
...See more Hey everyone, I (22M) recently met a girl (also 22) on a Catholic dating app. We’d been talking for two weeks and had two meaningful video calls before finally meeting in person yesterday. The date went really well — we spent about 3 hours talking deeply, opened up about some heavy life stuff, and both agreed it felt refreshing and real. Before we said goodbye, she let me know she usually needs some space after emotionally intense days, and might not respond much the following day. I appreciated her honesty and told her I respected that completely. Here’s where I started feeling uneasy: Later that same night — maybe two hours after our goodnight — I noticed she was active on the dating app again. Not once, but a few times since. Now, I know we’re not exclusive, and it could be habit or stress-scrolling, but it still felt off. If you say you need space, why turn to the app that quickly? It made me question if I misunderstood the connection, or if I’m just a bookmark while she browses around. To be clear, I’m not trying to police what she does — I just value clarity. When something starts to feel genuine, I naturally focus on that person. It’s hard not to see this as a potential sign of low interest. So here’s my question: Is this kind of behavior common? Am I reading too much into it? Or could it be something to keep an eye on? Would really appreciate thoughts from anyone who’s experienced similar dynamics.
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