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determinedtulip
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I need a lot of advice
Relationship Stress / by determinedtulip
Last post
 May 20th, 2025
...See more Im in a really weird situation. For a bit of context, Im 18F and my boyfriend is 18 as well. We’ve been together for almost two years. I adore him so much and I would literally do anything for him, but he is so incredibly inflexible. What I mean by this, is that he heavily disagrees with me going to parties, drinking, smoking, etc, to the point where if I were to do any of these things he says he would leave me. Therefore, I have not drank, gone to parties, or smoked in the time we’ve been together, but lately he’s also been getting mad at me if I make plans with friends ( he knows these friends really well and gets along with them really well ). I try to invite him to these plans, but he either doesn’t want to go, or he goes and has the worst time even though everyone’s trying to include him and talk to him. But if I go alone with my friends, he doesn’t talk to me for a few days and only answers to my calls or texts in a really cold tone, making me feel really guilty for having gone out. But the reason why I’m reaching out to anyone who’s reading this, is that I’m not sure what to do. All of the things I mentioned prior have caused me to isolate myself from family and friends and has frankly made me very depressed. He pays no interest to any of my hobbies, and since I have no one else to share them with, I have completely abandoned them. The depression has gotten to the point where I go to school, come home, sleep, wake up at 9pm, and not sleep until it’s 4am. I have lost a significant amount of weight. The worst thing that could happen to me is to break up with him, it would totally destroy me. But if things keep going at this pace, it’s not going to end well for me. ( I would love to get therapy or go to a psychiatrist, but I have no idea where to find one ) What do I do?
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Self-Harm Recovery / by determinedtulip
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 May 7th, 2025
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SH and relationships ( Advice please )
Self-Harm Recovery / by determinedtulip
Last post
 April 27th, 2025
...See more A bit of context: I have been self harming since I was 15, but I stopped for about two years. My boyfriend knows about my past with SH and it makes him really sad, since he loves me a lot. Lately, I’ve felt some extreme emotions that I have had trouble coping with, so I relapsed. When I made my boyfriend aware of it, he was extremely sad. I don’t want him to feel like he failed me, I don’t want him to feel sad at all, and I don’t want him to feel impotent. He has never been presented with a situation like this, so he doesn’t really know how to respond to it. I’m getting to a really low point in my life and I don’t think I’ll be able to quit any time soon because everything is really going downhill. He is the only person who I can talk to; I don’t have any other support system. But I feel really selfish when I tell him about it. he doesn’t know how to help me and I don’t know how he could help me either, but I really need someone to talk to. What should I do? I really don’t want to burden him with this and I don’t want to make him sad. He asked me to not hide SH from him and to tell him whenever I do it, so I can’t really hide it from him without betraying his trust, therefore making him anxious.
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