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Relationship Stress / by diligentEyes710
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 February 25th, 2022
...See more So I'm currently going through a divorce and had been with this guy for 8 years I recently decided to go out and meet new people and I met a guy and ended up meeting him in person originally I had said I wasn't looking for anything serious and looking to basically make friends and open to see where that goes at a snail like pace but while meeting up with him he asked if we could make out and I said no I wasn't looking for that but as time passes I almost regret saying it mentally I feel like it's a bad idea but I also feel really attracted to him and really want to were supposed to meet tomorrow and I'm tempted to say yes but I don't know if I should (I've only been intimate with my ex) I feel myself overthinking it but I also just wanna go for it I've never been in this kind of situation and don't know if it's valid to even be considered or just a bad idea all in all he gives hints whenever we hang out advice pleaseeee
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How to give him space
Relationship Stress / by diligentEyes710
Last post
 January 24th, 2022
...See more Hello everybody I need some advice.my husband said he wanted a divorce but agreed to try and work things out but I feel like he's so set on us failing. We've been together for 7 years and had our fair share of problems but all usual fights that couples go through. I'm trying so hard to fix stuff and coming up with ideas I think might work but I can tell he doesn't wanna do them he says things like I'll think about it. Now all the while of all this he's also over seas so we're long distance. I feel like he needs and wants space but I almost feel myself caving everytime and texting and trying to fix it which I think is making him shut down more. I can't think of anything to help the situation. I have a small window to fix things and he's not letting me try.
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Relationship Stress / by diligentEyes710
Last post
 January 7th, 2022
...See more o 2 days after Christmas my husband told me he wanted a divorce. Now we've been together for 7 years in total coming up on our 2nd year of marriage. My husband is my best friend and I love him with every I am so this came to a huge shock. He's military and overseas right now and won't be back for another 5 months, so for a total he would be gone for a year. Now long distance is hard enough, but we were already struggling before he left. It was mostly due to that fact, we had never lived together and I had to move to a state where I knew no one during covid. He was already settled and had Friends where I didn't so I counted on him for a lot more than was fair. Now back current with him gone, we were definitely drowning is miscommunication. He was pulling away due to being away from family and honestly I think depression but with him pulling away I was full close to the same and just like he didn't care. I had brought it up and he would apologize and it would get fixed never once saying he was strugglingwhen I asked . But then it kept happening and finally I snapped, i asked if he even wanted to put the effort in to make this work and to my surprise he said I don't know. He said plainly he wasn't sure he wanted to save our marriage word for word. I asked what he ment and he basically told me he was depressed in which I told him we could work this out as long as he was willing to pit the effort so was I. That period was hard I felt myself pulling back as well and getting angry all the time cause he wasn't trying so I called him to say maybe we needed to cut contact work on ourselves and then work on us when he came home. Basically a break but to my surprise he said he just wanted a divorce, he said he had been with legal a month before settling paperwork. Now in the state we got married before you can file for divorce you have to file for separation which takes six months. I basically begged for him to give me those six months and try to work on us after a day or 2 he agreed when things calmed down and if he still felt the same I'd sign the divorce papers no questions asked. I've been trying my hardest but he seems so detached and I can just feel it looming over us I also don't understand I had ask if he still loves Me and he says he does so I don't know what more I can do. If anyone had any advice I'd be extremely thankful. Even in our hard ships he's still my person and I can't see my future without him I want this to work so badly
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Possible divorce help!
Relationship Stress / by diligentEyes710
Last post
 January 2nd, 2022
...See more So 2 days after Christmas my husband told me he wanted a divorce. Now we've been together for 7 years in total coming up on our 2nd year of marriage. My husband is my best friend and I love him with every I am so this came to a huge shock. He's military and overseas right now and won't be back for another 5 months, so for a total he would be gone for a year. Now long distance is hard enough, but we were already struggling before he left. It was mostly due to that fact, we had never lived together and I had to move to a state where I knew no one during covid. He was already settled and had Friends where I didn't so I counted on him for a lot more than was fair. Now back current with him gone, we were definitely drowning is miscommunication. He was pulling away due to being away from family and honestly I think depression but with him pulling away I was full close to the same and just like he didn't care. I had brought it up and he would apologize and it would get fixed never once saying he was strugglingwhen I asked . But then it kept happening and finally I snapped, i asked if he even wanted to put the effort in to make this work and to my surprise he said I don't know. He said plainly he wasn't sure he wanted to save our marriage word for word. I asked what he ment and he basically told me he was depressed in which I told him we could work this out as long as he was willing to pit the effort so was I. That period was hard I felt myself pulling back as well and getting angry all the time cause he wasn't trying so I called him to say maybe we needed to cut contact work on ourselves and then work on us when he came home. Basically a break but to my surprise he said he just wanted a divorce, he said he had been with legal a month before settling paperwork. Now in the state we got married before you can file for divorce you have to file for separation which takes six months. I basically begged for him to give me those six months and try to work on us after a day or 2 he agreed when things calmed down and if he still felt the same I'd sign the divorce papers no questions asked. I've been trying my hardest but he seems so detached and I can just feel it looming over us I also don't understand I had ask if he still loves Me and he says he does so I don't know what more I can do. If anyone had any advice I'd be extremely thankful. Even in our hard ships he's still my person and I can't see my future without him I want this to work so badly
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